One year on, Madame T is still my biggest problem.

CantExplain · Mar 16, 2014, 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by feralkittymom

I think that is due to the fact that the bond with the T was NOT really 'emotionally satisfying'. It may have felt as though it was and we may have longed for it to be something it wasn't. I know for me my anger (that still surfaces now and then) is about that.

Exactly so ^. It's anger about the loss of what never was.

Good call!

Madame T talked about the "good enough" mother, but she herself was never quite good enough.

CantExplain · Mar 16, 2014, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by monalisasmile

CE, sorry Madame t hurt you so much. Do you think a closing session would give you any closure?
Something happened with my t before and we had major rupture. I drove a long long way to see her and she never showed up. I drove home crying all the way. Later that night I sent her an email saying it hurt and her response was ' it was up to me how I hurt myself over this' some ts are just idiots

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A closure session is still a possibility. But I do not think she would give me closure even then. I had four termination sessions as I was leaving. I'm still angry with her. I anticipate that I would spend the whole time telling her what she did wrong, and she would spend the whole time defending herself, just like the termination sessions.

A three-party session is a possibility. I've even thought about asking Mr T to see her one-on-one to find out what her problems is.

Mr T says I should just stop thinking about her.

I also contemplate psycho-dynamic therapy with another woman. I don't know if the right T exists, with most of Madame T's strengths and few of her weaknesses.

I've got plenty of options.

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