We have so many threads about what is going awry in our therapy that I thought it might be nice to think in the other direction.

So . . . what is going right in your therapy?

I'll start.

1. I've needed fewer sessions lately which is a good sign as it means I'm fairly stable these day. Stability's good.

2. I'm feeling particularly comfortable with my T lately and have been able to bring up some nagging issues.

3. My T hasn't had a kidney stone or thrown his back out in a few months, so there haven't been any cancellations recently.

My T has left me phone messages (calling my cell while we were in session) to help me remember that I am not horrifying and that what I just told him in session was a good thing to share, and that it did not change how he thinks about me. I can then listen to the message during the week to hang on to that and not freak out about finally talking about really sensitive subjects for me.

[HazelGirl]

I feel like I am more in tune with myself and my reactions to the rest of the world. And because of that, I can handle the rest of the world much better.

I was able to find a new therapist who validated that what happened with the old therapist was very traumatizing.

[brillskep]

My therapist has become more and more attuned over the years and we have a great relationship.

My therapist has a lot of intuition and hears even what I don't say.

I've made a lot of progress thanks to him and my therapy. I am a lot better off than when we started - both personally and professionally.

[Elektra_]

learning how to be assertive and whining about my shi.t life

[Asiablue]

Great idea!!

My therapist is doing 99% of things right. She is very attuned to me, right down to saying something i was just about to say, that's happened a lot. She owns up to any mistakes she does make. She is open to new ideas and anything that will help me. She keeps great boundaries.

I feel secure with my therapist and i'm also learning to be secure in the decisions i make in my life.
I am learning how to grieve properly and how to recognise what i am feeling.
I am learning how to process my emotions, when i'm triggered and why i might be triggered.
I am learning (slowly) how to self-soothe.
I am learning that it's ok to feel whatever i am feeling.
I have become less reactive to people, i don't take everything so personally.

Some weeks are better than others but i think i'm learning that i can trust her and that i can depend on her support when i need it.

My therapist is really awesome. Took me a while to find someone who's right for me and i think/hope/feel i have.

[RTerroni]

I lot, I have been writing down my thoughts about what happened in the last week, as well as ideas for the future, and we have been discussing the during sessions and it has been going very well.

I have managed to bring up several very hard subjects recently and it has gone relatively well. I'm nowhere near finished with these topics, nor am I comfortable talking about them, but I'm getting there. And I am getting to where I trust T, for real.

I have had very few suicidal or self-harming urges or thoughts these past few months.

My work is going better than I thought it ever could, thanks to my being more stable in general. (My work is more important to me than most other things in life, so this is vital.)

[silverleaf]

I wasn't sure if I was doing any better as I've not been in therapy for a massively long length of time, but at the weekend I hit a situation which normally would have me panicking hugely. Except this time, I was rational, thought it through and came up with a solution about it.

My T is utterly brilliant. We've talked through the hard stuff and I feel like I'm starting to move into dealing with strategies to change my mind-set and help me move forward.

[stopdog]

The woman stays back more now and often without me having to remind her.

[sweepy62]

Im learning to let my feelings and emotions out, through my drawings, and also what is difficult to verbalize about my past through art and we slowly are processing them together.

[Leah123]

1. Instead of bedtime being an exercise in anger and frustration, I created a calming bedtime routine with my daughter, and keep my temper so much better.
2. I can manage my anxiety well enough that 95% of the time I no longer have outbursts from my PTSD.
3. I have reenrolled in a B.A. program after two major setbacks and have completed six courses with a 4.0. One more year to graduation.
4. I have learned to depend on others for support more: I ask my husband for help and to share household and parenting duties more, and have engaged with relatives and reached out a couple times to make new friends also. (And I post here too for support, come to think of it.)
5. I have stopped giving into anxiety about finances and no longer draw from my retirement account to pay off bills.
6. Got my husband into therapy to improve our family life.
7. I am back in touch with my passions and find a little time for pleasure and rest.
8. I communicate more clearly with my husband (mixed blessing, haha)
9. I am involved with others more: charitably, on forums, and trying to make friends irl too.
10. I set limits around staying at my house for my mother: no more unbearable seven night stays.
11. I communicate better with my therapist and have less ruptures, and they mend more easily.
12. I have started seeing gains from DBT, lifting my mood a bit, keeping me from being quite as upset or anxious, and doing more constructive things.
13. Instead of yelling and threatening because I feel out of control during busy mornings, I help my daughter more proactively and don't lose my temper anymore.
14. I'm working on my daughter's ODD in a clearer, more constructive way.
15. I have cut down therapy expense by 30% from last year, and therapy hours by about 45% (darn rate change, haha) for February

[IndestructibleGirl]

Well, she is still there. Still sending strong supportive messages. Still being loving. Long may it continue.

[BlessedRhiannon]

1. Even though I have some major stressors in my life right now, I don't feel the need to email/text T. I'm content to write in my journal and talk about things in session.

2. I'm feeling significantly less anxious than I have been, even with lots of things going on.

3. I've been taking a few risks with sharing things with T, and it feels kinda safe. I don't feel like it's going to come back to haunt me.

[HealingTimes]

Great idea for a thread! Thanks Sierra

-My T is being her usual epic self Even when we have setbacks, I see it less as a traumatic event these days, I view it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

-I am opening up to her much more. In our last session (Monday) we had a pretty terrible session as I was just being really stupid and refusing to talk. She said to me "Healing, in the 4 years that we have known each other I have always had the feeling that things are so much worse for you than you ever tell me" and I said "Yes, you are right". It may not seem like much, but telling her that yes, things aren't great at the moment, is a big step for me.

-She is helping me through my recent relapse in my ED.

-She reminds me a lot of how much progress I have made and we decided that we should celebrate this progress! We are going to do something outside in her garden (but the weather hasn't been good enough yet). More importantly, I can SEE the progress I have made in the last 4 years.

-I feel more comfortable being 'real' with her and not having to pretend that everything is 'Fine'...'Fine' is my go to word when I don't have the vocabulary to express anything else.

I love this thread

[Leah123]

16. Figured out some major triggers
17. Stopped acting like my life began at 20, came to some peace with the prior years and traumas
18. Got more authentic



Glad I thought of those, because this thread deserves bumping!

Originally Posted by 1914sierra

So . . . what is going right in your therapy?

Everything.
My therapist is brilliant.

I am lucky to have him as my T.

Less than 6 months into it now...

[DelusionsDaily]

My therapist has done a great job of reinforcing my strengths and progress when I am really hard on myself.

I am highly motivated to do and be well and achieve my goals in life/therapy.

Solution focused!

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[elliemay]

I've come to realize that my therapist is quite smart. He knows me better than I thought he did and has (as stopdog puts it) wily ways of getting me to the truth of the matter.

He's found some very practical, very beneficial things to help me.

I look forward to going to therapy.

He's helping me bring to light a part of me that I just love.

Thanks Sierra great idea.
Well I am only starting out with a new t and I miss my ex t like crazy but we get along ok! She is nothing like ex t so maybe that is why it is working

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[CameraObscura]

It's tough going right now, but not because of difficulty with my t. It's tough because I am dealing with some really hard stuff, and that means I'll be able to move through another "section" of work in my healing.

I wouldn't be able to do this without the work I've done with past Ts, and without a secure connection to current T.

It sucks, but it's worth it.

[trdleblue]

Things for me have really changed for the positive in the last couple of months. Though I was quite nervous to do so, I started seeing a Psychiatrist for medication. I'm glad I did because it has helped tremendously. Life is beginning to have meaning for me. It has also helped with my therapy. Since I am much more stable we are able to actually delve deeper into topics.