Seeing T in a social situation- How would you feel?

It wouldn't bother me at all to see my T somewhere socially. I'd probably walk up and start chatting to him. Then again, I'm friends with one of his coworkers and on of his old coworkers. And being in a small community, I've ran into my students' parents while drunk... (actually was at a pre-party with one of them and our drunk butts caught the same lift to the bar...).. and nothing can be more embarassing than babbling to your student's parents about how great you think their kids are and all sorts of other things (but hey, at least they know I love their kids!)...

So seeing my T? No one who didn't know I went to therapy would know that he was my T and would just think I knew him through other venues.

One psychologist I was seeing when I was massively suicidal & was ending up in the hospital all the time was also a dressage horse back rider & we were both in the local dressage riding club & showing.....first night when she showed up at the first meeting it was a bit awkward....but I said hi just like I did with anyone else I knew.....

She commented at the next appointment that it's ok....we just don't talk business/psychology or make comments about it which was fine with me.

I don't have many professionals I'm involved with at the moment....but I have been involved in so many activities around this smaller town area that it's normal to run into people & I'm very much open to saying hi no matter who they are & especially if I recognize someone.

But I didn't want to go to the mental health group in my town because I didn't want people seeing & not having the facts.....so I chose to go to the one in the next town 20 minutes away mostly because of seeing me going in & out...not for fear of running across someone while out & about in town.

A few years ago when I was at a lecture in the City.....I noticed that my Pain specialist was there & assumed the lady with him was his wife.....so I actually went back to say hi to him & he did introduce me to his wife....& it was rather a good thing because he could see that with the prescription that he was giving me that I was truly able to lead a completely NORMAL life & it didn't have any effect on me which is actually shocking to most.....but he documented that in my chart which hasn't really helped in my case of trying to find a new pain specialist to continue my treatment after he closed his practice this last year......but it was good to have them at least be able to read it if nothing else.

T and i go out alot, dinner and lunch and out for milkshakes,etc, and to the store/run errands so i am totally comfortable with it

I would be ok with it, but I would also realize it was taboo.... I'd would probably wonder about it, like is my T randomly like this with other clients or is this a message that I mean more to him? I'd go, meditate on it, and ask him those questions right after in the parking lot.

Personally I would probably be delighted, but I don't think most people would feel this way.

I sometimes meet my therapist at the dog park and it doesn't bother me at all. I have petted his dog,too

What about asking her to do a couple of meetings and see how you do. If it makes you uncomfortable then tell her that honestly

I would like seeing my therapist outside of therapy. I just always feel more comfortable with her so I would be fine with it. At the same time I would be pretty distracted, worry about what I wear, say, how I look, talk, stuff like that.

One time I saw her walking towards the counseling center at school and I was walking to class. She didn't see me, but she looked mad which freaked me out, I'd never seen her look like that before. Also I was uncomfortable seeing her because those were the days when I was secretive about therapy and didn't want my friends to know.

But today I would like seeing her outside of therapy but also might be distracted.

As far as it goes with seeing my Therapist outside of session I would probably be happy to see her (although I have never seen a Therapist outside of session before), and the amount of socializing that we do would depend on where we meet at.

Thank You everyone for your replies.

This is something that I really WANT to be OK with. Maybe if we discuss it a lot beforehand, discuss how we would greet each other so that it's planned out, it would be OK for me? I don't know, but I would like to try.

My worry is that what if I get there and realise within 5 mins that I cannot do this and then have to spend the next 6 hours stuck in a tiny room with her there?

I want to get more involved in this kind of thing (the meditation I mean, it really is helping me with Anxiety and Depression) and my T herself is thinking of setting up the same thing in our local area. It would be so much better if I could just be OK with it.

I saw him on a street one day, he came to me, we walked some steps together, talked little bit.
If he were with his wife I would pretend I don't know him and stared at him.

I would love to meet him on a street alone again and again. I love when we are outside of this cold room.

I saw my T at the local shopping mall last year. She was alone and I was with my children. I said Hi and was fine with that, albeit a little shaken (I just didn't expect to see her). But spending 6 hours with her in the room...it is new territory for me.

Ok, take it in bite sized chunks. It doesn't have to be literally 6 hours. Presumably there will be a morning break... if things are terrible you can leave then. Then there will only be a short time between break and lunch and at lunchtime you could leave. There's opportunities to slip away if things get too much.

I wouldn't know what to do with myself... or how to act... or how to feel. I think it would be a very difficult thing for me to process.

From another perspective... I get this sometimes when i am out shopping or something, and someone sees me especially kids, and they get totally weirded out that i am just right there in the mall, like i am someone to be nervous around and all, and i am like, i am just a normal person thats it. T's are just normal too. I am married to one. It makes me laugh to think that if his clients saw him in the store buying his underwear that they would be all freaked out and too afriad to talk to him. He is just a normal guy.

Oh and on another note... I was in the hospital once, and my husband refused to come visit me it was because two of his clients were there too and he didnt want them tos ee him there.
He cared more about what his clients thoughts and comfort than me, his wife.

<- this would likely be my reaction.

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I think my therapist would have more of a problem with it then I would. His boundaries are made of steel...

i saw my T at a restaurant. it was weird. later on he said he thought i felt uncomfortable. i guess i was. it felt like an invasion. i thought he was watching me and analyzing me. which i guess he was cuz he said he thought i felt uncomfortable. meh

I might feel that way in a restaurant situation especially if I was there by myself, I remember seeing a teacher at a resturant many years ago and I felt a little uncompterable.

Oh Gosh, I hadn't even considered the 'food' part of the day (Lunchtime). She knows I am having a rocky time with my ED at the moment so God knows how I would feel about that...argh!