T thinking about you

my T says he thinks about me a lot when hes doing research stuff (hes a research nerd) he even prints out articles for me to read. once he said he was talking to his therapist about something i went through. i know he didnt use my name so i wasnt offended

If we could do that, we wouldn't need therapy

Yeah, mines says she thinks of me quite often, i'm never sure whether to believe her. But it makes me feel kind of nice that i'm not forgettable.

Mine said that he was thinking about me once. It caught me off guard but also made me feel important. Like maybe he does take in what I have to say

When I first started with T about 7 years ago she used my name at least once in every session. She used my full first name even though I am pretty sure in my first session I mentioned that everybody calls me by my nickname. It made me uncomfortable. At about my 5th or 6th session I told her that the only time I was every called my full name was when I was in trouble as a child so please call me by my nickname. She was very happy to do so. Over the years she lessened how often she used my name during a session. Now she rarely uses it.

She uses my name when it is time to go back for the session (Hi [name], are you ready to come back?) and that doesn't bother me. It IS my name after all. But when we're in the session and she uses it during the conversation (for example, saying "oh [name], that must have been hard" or "come on, [name], you can do this") it is unsettling for some reason.

I know that it is so strange to not feel okay with someone saying my name - I don't dislike my name at all, for the record - it just feels intense when she says it in that room.

And her thinking about me outside of the session makes me also wonder if my stuff is so different from other people that she has to think about how to handle it. I want to just need the normal amount of help - not to be some special consideration.

About using my name - mine calls me by name at the beginning and end of the sessions. Occasionally he uses it during as well. Is it weird that I've used his name during the session before too? As in, "T, come on." Lol

It's not "weird" to me. But if it is to you, you might want to bring it up in your therapy.

My therapist has always said that getting through the painful things that you have to work through in therapy only really happens when you feel 'held by the therapeutic relationship.'

I started using T's name back at her as well. It has made the relationship more comfortable and healing, as I've always had trouble using peoples' names and hearing my name when someone addresses me.

-Ally

My t tells me often about thinking about me. She says she thinks of me often throughout the day, every day. She says that i am part of her life so of course she thinks of me. I appreciate it when she says that.

I suspect my therapist avoids saying things like that because she knows I'm still a bit hyper vigilant because of abuse by my last therapist. I'm a firm believer that feeling " weird " needs to be explored- for me it often means I'm ignoring something that I need to pay attention to. I don't think it always means that something is terribly wrong - just that I need to be alert to what other people are saying and doing and how I am feeling.

I've come to realise very clearly over the last few days that the notion of other people (regardless of who) thinking about me when I am out of sight is pretty much just terrible and terrifying. It was a nice sensation when T had watched that movie I'd told him about, but that doesn't mean it would be a positive thing if I believed that he was thinking about me at other times. In fact it makes me slightly panicky to imagine that, right now. (This is a fairly new realisation for me.)

Omg. Hallmark Cards (in America) made a whole business marketing cards for people to say "Thinking of You". The irony! This is why you will never be a millionaire

I don't particularly think is is useful for the therapist to tell me she has thought about me. The woman has said it a few times, but it always sort of freaks me out. Once I am gone from the appointment, that is the end of it until the next appointment.

My T says it fairly often. I don't think too much of it, I consider it part of his job to think about me - can't solve problems if you don't spend time thinking about them;-)
I realize that's probably not how he wants me to see it, but I'm a nerdy scientist type and that's how I do see it.