Sometimes I get jealous...

I have emailed T several times, mainly about scheduling. But a few times I have emailed him about emotional stuff. He responds briefly, mainly to say "we can talk about this next session". He did email me Merry Christmas on Christmas, which I was surprised and happy about. I can - and do - call his work number to leave messages about what is going on with me. He has encouraged me to do this. But he will only respond if I specifically say "call me back". I also have his cell phone which is for emergencies, and he said that I define what an emergency is. I have used this a few times but even then I always need to leave a message because he never just picks up although he does call me back. I've never texted him and don't think I will because it would have to be an emergency and then I would call. It is tough though because sometimes I want to call or email him multiple times a week and I have to stop myself. I hate feeling so needy.

I email my T about non-scheduling things fairly infrequently. Usually less than once a month but on occasion up to twice or three times a week. I think therapy would be a lot less interesting if I weren't allowed to email because I have told her a lot by email that I wouldn't otherwise feel able bring up in session. I express myself better in writing and this is particularly important when it comes to the harder stuff. I don't expect much more than a brief acknowledgement of receipt from her. Sometimes she writes a sentence or two but never anything very detailed. Recently she didn't reply to an email at all and it made me feel very insecure so I can really empathize with the way that can leave you feeling a bit unmoored. I guess a T has to strike a balance between protecting their out of work time and being flexible enough to meet their client's needs. It's really not that complicated--in my mind the solution is to charge enough that they feel they can manage a few emails without resentment or specifically charge for email. Knowing how helpful it's been to me, I now would not agree to a therapy relationship that didn't allow email.

My T prefers to be contacted via voicemail. She has never given me her email. I have told her she can text me if she is too busy to talk. She does not generally offer to let me call her between sessions. But she will if she thinks I am feeling vulnerable.

I can e-mail because I wouldn't be able to call... However, my T doesn't do therapy via e-mails so she doesn't respond. She said that she may read my e-mail (I do not send more than one per week) in a train before the session and sometimes bring it up at the session, sometimes not... On one hand I think that it would be great if she answered all my e-mails etc. but on the other hand I would be afraid that I would want more and more...

i only email my T articles i find and he prints them out and reads them. well thats not true sometimes i email him something i copy pasted from the web like emails i sent to my dean and some old journal entries. he prints them out and we talk about them in session. we text a lot more than email he even texts me when hes off work. sometimes i feel bad about it but i know he would tell me if he didnt like it. he doesnt respond ALWAYS when i text him and i dont get upset about that. i just like to tell him whats going on and stuff. but sometimes he gets therapuetic thru text and it helps to have him guide me and check in on me when im not doing well. idk i know all therapists arent like this. im sorry u feel jealous about it. i prob would too

My therapist allows texts and emails. It has been a very healing aspect of my therapy (I think). She responds to pretty much all of them(a relief for me). Sometimes a word or two and sometimes a sentence or two. Now that I have experienced this....should I go to another therapist (hope not) I think it would be a requirement for me.

I don't email or have phone contact inbetween sessions. I have rung a few times inbetween sessions but it's just been for changes in appointments or to double check my appointment time.

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I'm struggling more and more with this. The wish to reach out to T when I am breaking up inside, and the feeling of inferiority that other people with other Ts get to do that but not me.

My T only sends me back a few lines, even if I write pages (which I've only done twice in 7 years). She also would rather I call her.