[nottrustin]

The last few weeks T has helped me out immensely in regards to my children. She and I have been on the phone a lot and sent MANY emails back and forth. Especially in regards to my daughters recently diagnosed depression. I blamed myself and thought about a lot of the worst case scenarios and was frustrated that I didn't see it months ago. She helped me figure out how to proceed with getting help and talking to kiddo about some very difficult topics. So I bought her a thank you card and a gift card to her favorite restaurant.

I got an email this morning stating that the cards was lovely but she was trying to figure out the gift. I explained why I did it and such and that I am sorry if it was a boundary issue or that it made her uncomfortable as that was in no way my intention. Also that being mother's day was probably not the best time either but since mother's day is just another day for not something I celebrate because of the pain it causes I didn't event think about it.....oh man....why did I have to cause so many issues??

[unaluna]

I dont think you messed up! i think shes just asking what you mean - is she your mom, did she help you mother your daughter - any number of scenarios. I think its nice - if nothing else, she can get takeout some late night on her way home. I think its very thoughtful.

[nottrustin]

I really hope she didn't think about it in me feeling like she is my mom. She knows how wonderful of a relationship with my mom I had and how deeply I miss her. She also know that I detest mother's day but "celebrate" it for my children. I know how important it is to them and therefore it isn't about me. I hope you are right though that she was seeking clarification and will be cool with it.

[nottrustin]

In my final email to her I told her I was really sorry if I crossed boundaries or made her feel uncomfortable which was in no way my intentions. I also apologized in that the timing was probably wrong with Mother's day but it was only because so much is going on. She responded that I needed to stop saying sorry and that it was a perfect day to say thank you and it was a wonderful gift. She said we are fine so not to worry.