Two hypothetical T related questions!

1. Cleaning my house. For sure id never let it get messy again then, right?

2. Um yeah already planning on italy for the honeymoon cough cough.

I would LOVE to spend the evening at a bar with T, getting very very drunk, and hearing about all his problems for a change . Knock down the therapeutic facade and see whats underneath.

Can't imagine hanging out with T outside of therapy. That would be weird for me. I would always fear she would be analyzing me.

24 hours would be spent going to a nice park or art gallery, back home (hers) for a lovely dinner and a movie on the sofa with wine and just chatting. Next day... just chilling and talking more.

For a trip.... I dunno there's some beautiful beaches on the Western Isles of Scotland, maybe hire a cottage near there and just go walks. Just relaxing naturey things.

With main T, in person for a change. With him, I could talk to him almost all day, with a break for a nice lunch for both of us. In the afternoon, a card game would be great, and I love the idea of napping on his couch while he just shuffles paper around at his desk.

With cBT T, it would be a much more active day. He makes me work harder, so only 1-3 hrs of therapy---split up through the day is all I could handle. However he would make an interesting road trip partner--he has been helping me with my driving anxiety anyways so getting in the car would be natural. However, having to stop for "breaks" would make me feel self conscious, but he is human too so maybe that would help me get over that.

I want to go to Kenya or Tanzania to see the big wildlife migrations in one of the parks. Anyone, T or otherwise is welcome to join that fantasy (so expensive)

I have had an entire 24 hours with my t. We were on vacation in another country. Tons of fun. I spent about ten days with her. Lets see what did we do... I made her some coffee just the way she likes it. We went out for breakfast. We went to the zoo, went hiking up a mountain, had lunch, did quite a few hours of therapy in a secluded area of a park, went out for a late dinner and ate in the car and continued talking waaaay late into the night until we were both exhausted. Next day we did the same breakfast scenario, but instead we went to the beach in the morning, went to a sandwich shoppe along the beach, then went back to the hotel and sat on the bed and talked for like 8 hours (exhausting), went for a walk, went to the grocery store and picked up some dinner, talked some more but about fun/ silly things.

Well, it's not really resolved. It is getting there though. It's been very helpful and reassuring to read about others' experiences here and to share my own in return. Give me a bit and I'll put something coherent enough for a thread together. It tends to come in bits and pieces...
I don't know when the crying and hurt will end. Somebody on another thread said that the transference is resolved but the feelings remain. I think I agree.

I started to imagine different scenarios, then my thoughts shifted to thinking that he probably doesn't even like me enough to spend a whole day with me. It was just another thing to cry about...I'm having a really bad week.

Hey, like he would really enjoy de-hoarding my house?? Youre barbie, hes ken - he has to do what you say!

Okay, I'm on a roll here. If I had previous T for a day I'd drag her to sparring practice with me. ;-P I did tell her a few times that I felt like showing up to therapy in my sparring gear.

If I had 24 hours with my T, I think I would want to go to the mountains with a cabin near a river...and just drive, hike, picnic...go back to the cabin and fix dinner together, light a fire, make a big pile of blankets and watch a funny movie like "Analyze This", and fall asleep with my head on a pillow in his lap...just feel safe. Get up and make him a big breakfast and drive down the mountain. I love hearing him read to me or tell me stories, so that would be great too.

If I were to go on a trip, it would be to Japan and visit some of the shrines and countryside and islands around it...my "safe place" is a Japanese bagota type place..would want to find something similiar with him in it to make it even more safe...just explore and chat.

I would not want to spend that much time with the woman. I don't want to spend that much time with most other people. I don't find her all that interesting and I doubt we have much in common.

1. 24 hours is a long time. I wouldn't want to do therapy for the whole time or maybe even any of the time. I would go backpacking with him, somewhere remote.

2. A one way trip to Mars. Oh, sorry, you said in the world... well I guess I'd go on a loooonnngggg cruise around the world. :P

I would first go to my T's house (yes, in this fantasy she invited me of course!) and look at all of her artwork. Then we might paint together. Later we would go to the lake, walk around, take photos,
then sit down and talk. I'd take her to my house and she could look at of my artwork and talk to my husband while I cooked a big dinner for us. I don't think she cooks much.maybe we would play word games or do a jigsaw puzzle afterwards.

I'd want to go to a scenic place with her, maybe Switzerland.

Would anyone tell their T about this thread and what they wrote? I think I'll tell mine!

I don't think I would do it for a full 24 hours, but I would like T to come see me horses. I would be a sunny day, we'd be sitting under the trees in the bottom part of the pasture and my horses would be around sometimes paying attention to us, sometimes just grazing away... and we'd do therapy there.
The reason I have this fantasy is actually because my horses give me a lot of strength and it's easier for me to talk about difficult subjects when they are around.

i spent a whole day with my T. he drove me to another city to have a lawsuit mediation.

I would not spend 24 hours with my individual T because it would be way too overwhelming. I like to keep things on the professional level if I am to continue therapy with said T. My former couple's T however would be a different story. Both my wife and I were very attracted to her (physically and because she is just a really great human being). I would want to spend a day just hanging out and maybe heading to a bar or movie or the beach or just spend the day hitting up really good restaurants. We are both suckers for really good food and drink. She would need to stop working for the day though, which would be next to impossible. The woman is a workaholic... And if we went on vacation together, I would probablly pick an Olivia cruise or some inclusive tropical resort.

That is an awesome imaginary day and trip!

LOL!!! I love your idea!

Yes, I remember your trip and how much fun and wonderful things you share with your T!

I'm sorry that my post brought you these feelings! Hope you can share your troubles with us, we are here!

Oh, I was about to ask the same! Reading all your answers made me want to talk to him about my fantasies! But I'm not sure whether I will share. So, yes, will you share them with your T?

Thank you for the warning! I will have my post removed.

we live with her so we always spend 24 hours ♥

1) If I had a whole day I'd want to go to a coffee house/bakery for breakfast and just chat. Then we'd do something outdoor - a short hike to a waterfall would be fun. We'd have a picnic, play some board games, lay in the sun, ask each other "hypothetical scenario" questions and enjoy just being "free". I think we'd both like a break, so we'd go to my imaginary apartment to shower and since we are both kind of introverts she'd read for a while and I'd play a game on my computer, text or watch a show. We'd eventually do some online window shopping and come up with some cute outfit ideas for each other. Then, I'd make Indian food for dinner and cupcakes for dessert followed by a comedy movie on the floor in the den with sangria. It would be good, clean fun and then she'd leave for the night to be with her family and I'd spend the evening reflecting on the nice relaxing day.

2) I don't think i'd like to go on a trip anywhere with T unless it was a day trip on a train (never been on one) to do a little "journey to discovering who I am" type thing and she would be there helping me to really let go of all the pain inside. That would be nice.