[lightcatcher]

I have been struggling with odd feelings the night and the next day after therapy. I have thought it's been more of an unsettledness, but tonight I think I've worked it out!
It's a hangover!
From such a good time (sometimes not), then a crash back to reality and waiting and hoping for the week to fly past for another fix.
I don't like this feeling.

[CantExplain]

((LightCatcher))

[rainbow8]

I used to always feel the same way after my sessions. I would feel depressed and sad that it was over, and nothing seemed to matter except getting that "fix" from my T the next week. I was addicted to therapy!

Do you have attachment issues? Can you "hold onto" your T during the week? Can you tell your T how you feel? How long have you been seeing this therapist?

It's normal to like therapy and your T but the goal is to feel better in your "real life". I have been struggling with doing that for a long time. It's a combination of having a secure relationship with my T, and pursuing interests that give me the " high" that I used to get only from therapy.

[lightcatcher]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

I used to always feel the same way after my sessions. I would feel depressed and sad that it was over, and nothing seemed to matter except getting that "fix" from my T the next week. I was addicted to therapy!

Do you have attachment issues? Can you "hold onto" your T during the week? Can you tell your T how you feel? How long have you been seeing this therapist?

It's normal to like therapy and your T but the goal is to feel better in your "real life". I have been struggling with doing that for a long time. It's a combination of having a secure relationship with my T, and pursuing interests that give me the " high" that I used to get only from therapy.

Thanks rainbow! I do have attachment issues, ambivalent attachment. I think about T through out the rest of the week esp when I feel that I need her.
Sometimes the therapy hangover isn't always a bad feeling, at times I feel positive and cared for.
I don't know if I would tell T these feelings, we have probably touched on it previously as she has said things like, you can think of me and imagine I'm with you and that that is ok.
I've been seeing T now for just over a year now.
I think the hangover could be a bit of exhaustion of trying to fight off Ts care and positive relationship, as well as my own efforts to control feelings. Maybe if I just let it all be instead of fighting it it will feel good and I won't be so exhausted?

[Salmon77]

I get a little therapy hangover, too. I think about the various things that were brought up and the day or so after I tend to feel a bit low.

[nonamecomestomind]

Wow lightcatcher! That is a perfect term and explanation for that time after therapy. I don't feel it so much with the T I have now, but definitely with my previous T. I am going to share that with T next week!

[RTerroni]

Yes I have that sometimes.

[someone321]

Taking into account that the next day I always have headache, sometimes nausea, am totally exhausted and tell myself "never again", I guess it's exactly a hangover!

But yes, I know what you mean...

[tametc]

Originally Posted by lightcatcher

I think the hangover could be a bit of exhaustion of trying to fight off Ts care and positive relationship, as well as my own efforts to control feelings. Maybe if I just let it all be instead of fighting it it will feel good and I won't be so exhausted?

I think you may be right about this. Months ago, I was feeling exhausted and very sore all over my body (I have fibromyalgia, but hadn't felt that much pain in a long time), and T helped me to realize that I was fighting to control feelings. She encouraged me to journal and express those feelings, and it did help. When I next saw her, I processed some more feelings, and the pain in my body subsided and I had renewed energy. I thought she was wrong at first, but I trusted her enough to give it a try, and it turns out she was right after all.

I hope you can resolve this so you feel better.

[tinyrabbit]

I totally relate to this!

[unaluna]

Not so much a therapy hangover as a binge response. There was someone on here almost 3 years ago who said he did the same thing and we had the same kind of european-american upbringing - here eat some spaghetti youll feel better. Ive been changing my diet recently to more whole, less processed foods, and yesterday after session, plus i am taking a new-to-me cholesterol med, so yesterday i made a change to the binge response too. Just tried to stay more mindful, more in my new habits, not get swept away.