She sort of gives me that impression, that she has a particular interest in me.

[Favorite Jeans]

I feel a little ashamed for wanting to be.

[LadyShadow]

Yes my T has told me I am his favorite many times. Makes me feel good. He became an administrator so he lessened his case load. He doesn't see many clients anymore, so I feel privileged.

I know I'm not. I'm sure he must have a favourite client, or several - he wouldn't be human otherwise. But I ain't it - how could I be?

[CantExplain]

I did sometimes feel I was Madame T's favourite.
Makes me wonder how she treated the others.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Mastodon

I know I'm not. I'm sure he must have a favourite client, or several - he wouldn't be human otherwise. But I ain't it - how could I be?

Why shouldn't it be you?

How do assess whether you a favourite client? I like to think I am but I have no concrete evidence that this so. I feel that he cares a deal for me, but being a nurse I wass capable of caring deeply for a number of patients, but I was also careful not treat some such that they thought they were special. Even though they were and 20 years later I still think of them

[JaneC]

I think if a T makes you feel you are their favourite then they are doing a good job. Whether it is true or not, it would be therapuetic if you feel it.

Originally Posted by CantExplain

Why shouldn't it be you?

I could give the specifics, but this is not really the thread for that. I just feel that a favourite client must be somebody who really stands out, positively, in some way, and I don't do that. And I've only been seeing him for a little more than a year, and he has many long-term clients, so it seems a bit presumptious to think that I could be a favourite.

I suspect he enjoys getting to speak English with me, because I'm the only client he's ever done that with, from what he's told me. So in that sense I am, at least, special.

Originally Posted by Mastodon

I suspect he enjoys getting to speak English with me, because I'm the only client he's ever done that with, from what he's told me. So in that sense I am, at least, special.

There you go!

[growlycat]

With longtime T I may be one of a few. But not cbt T I don't think.

I desperately want to be the favorite!!!

[stopdog]

No. I would not be.

[WikidPissah]

They are Wiley.*

One of their goals is to make you FEEL favored. It doesn't mean you are though, sorry. It's a tactic they use.

*SD quote.

I wouldn't want to be their favorite... or to feel like I was a favorite...

that would feel like too much pressure to perform and not enough freedom to be myself and say what I thought...

[critterlady]

I think a good therapist will make every client feel as though she is the favorite client.

[trdleblue]

I am not a favorite and I have no desire to be. I also don't think that means my t is bad at his job. For me I don't see how it could be beneficial for me to feel like I am his favorite client. I think there are things he respects about me, and I don't think he dislikes me. That is enough for me.

Originally Posted by critterlady

I think a good therapist will make every client feel as though she is the favorite client.

I don't necessarily agree. I think a good therapist will make every client feel that the therapist enjoys working with them, but whether clients feel like a favourite or not depends on both the therapist's and the client's personalities. And I don't believe that it would be therapeutic for all clients to feel like a favourite client.

I have a very good T. I am helped immensely by my work with him. But I'm still not his favourite

I haven't the foggiest idea, not that it really matters to me. I know he likes me and we get along well. He cares about me and my family. Isn't that enough? I don't need to be the favorite.

[feralkittymom]

I don't think my T had favorites, but I suspect he had some clients who challenged him and for whom he has a lasting fondness. I know he occasionally gets letters from a few clients, invitations to weddings, that sort of thing. I know he's fond of me, but I have no reason to think I'm alone in that.

[LoneWolfie]

Don't know if I am a favorite but she has said she's fond of me and enjoys working with me. That works for me, since I care for her deeply and like working with her too!

[ShrinkPatient]

Originally Posted by WikidPissah

They are Wiley.*

One of their goals is to make you FEEL favored. It doesn't mean you are though, sorry. It's a tactic they use.

*SD quote.

Exactly that!!!!

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With one of my Ts I might be, don't know for sure...he said in real-life he thought we would be really good friends, as he can relate to a lot of what I have been through. With my other T I don't have any idea, I just know we get along very well. I imagine I probably frustrate him though.

[doyoutrustme]

No idea, he's very hard to read. We get along well, but that doesn't mean to say I would fall under a 'favorite' category.

[likelife]

Hardly. But she's said that she enjoys working with me, and that's enough.

I desperately wanted to be my ex-T's favorite, which I'm starting to realize was not so healthy. I don't really worry about it with my current T.

[tinyrabbit]

This isn't an issue for me because I don't want my T to have favourites, even if I'm the favourite. I want him to be someone who loves his clients equally and does not have favourites or scapegoats.

That would be my stuff talking, then...

I just don't feel it would be a plus-point for him as a therapist if he did, so I don't trouble myself with it.