T Said This Place Has To Much Influence On Me...She Is Right

Favorite Jeans · Jun 25, 2014, 12:36 PM

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Originally Posted by GenCat

And tell me, what if I am looking for people who think she is not abusive? Why have I contacted another T and a therapy abuse hotline about this? I get no sense of happiness hearing how abusive she is to me. And I said I word things the wrong way, not give the wrong account of events.

I don't think anyone can understand my situation, because none of you have experienced things like this. Im not looking for anything when I post except reading others opinions. I admit I am getting tired of the opinions only of my T.

I honestly think, its both of us and we just clash and tangle. I told T I hated her but loved her. Its black and white thinking. I told T, she pissed me off, so I am blaming her for stepping on my toes.

Besides, how do you all know I am telling you all the whole truth in whats happening? If I said I wasn't, would you change your mind things?

If this was a new T who told me I shouldn't be on here because im so influenced, what would your answer be then?

Gen Cat, my thought was not that other people's skepticism makes you happy, but that it validates and gives voice to some part of you that is feeling doubt. I think that your suggestion that you are unable to give a fair and reasonable account of the events that have gone on between you and your T suggest that you are perhaps being emotionally manipulated. I am assuming that you are not deliberately lying but that you have very little experience being believed and supported so that it's kind of unsettling when it happens. I think if you were making up stories about what happened, you wouldn't be so destabilized by people's responses.

Have you ever heard the expression "gaslighting" ? It's a kind of subtle emotional abuse in which you are made to doubt yourself. The abused person comes to feel very confused and uncertain of their version of events. I've been there and it's really quite awful.

I have no stake in your decision to remain with your T, find another one, quit altogether or make any other choice. I'm just trying to offer you my perspective.

healingme4me · Jun 25, 2014, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by melania

"This place" = forum?

And if it is that, this place =this forum, then so what?

Your T is suggesting to stay off line? Away from other therapy clients/ patients? Because you 'may' have traits of bpd?
So, you 'may' mirror and project, so? There's also a personality place sub forum, so you can mingle with others with bpd and learn coping techniques and feel less alone or less like a 'freak', which isn't synonymous with bpd, but how is ,that, not, therapeutic?

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