T drives a $50k car?

We considered it for a brief second, but since I had no credit, we really wanted me to begin building credit through financing a car haha. He did technically wind up financing my Camry because even there, they required him to be the primary buyer with me as the cosigner.

My T drives a 1990's single cab ford truck .. He has a 40 mile commute.. Hes not the type to want a fancy car .. hes old school lol

i guess this is about realizing your image of your T is just that--your image of him rather than who he really is. that's okay. as we learn more about people we have to readjust who we thought they were. i would try to check the impulse to judge him though. there is more to life than being practical.

Its a flashy sportscar. If actually may have cost more but I don't know which upgrades T chose. I'd rather not say the brand.

I guess it surprised me because I feel self conscious of how I spend my money and that's a theme in my sessions.

Also my dad had a similar car when I was growing up. So many feelings! I appreciate all the feedback all.

I would honestly focus on the vibes from your T and the connection you have. People can have nice things and still be humble. Perhaps he or she worked very hard to get to this stability and it's their way of treating themselves to something nice. I wouldn't look into it too much. My T has a very pricey car as well but it suits her and, knowing her past, she totally deserves whatever lifestyle keeps her happy.

I'm not sure if you got your answer or still looking at this thread, but in my opinion just mention this to your therapist. Say you thought they were humble but seeing their nice car made you doubt your view of the kind of person they are.

Btw, If your T takes it personally, you better change therapists. Therapists usually encourage people to talk about whatever is on their mind. That includes how you feel about them or what you think of them. If you ignore this car thing, it won't magically go away but just cast a shadow on your relationship that it not going to be good for your or your T.

My T uses public transport Like most people here... But it looks that she lives in the house worth at least 1 million $ - I guess I should have become a T instead of choosing academic path

My T drives a Ford jeep something or other. Nothing fancy whatsoever. He's mentioned before that he hates cars and knows next to nothing about them. He spends his money on other things...lavish vacations, for starters.