How late in the evening is considered too late to text/email your T?

I've texted and got a response as late as 11. Time doesn't matter when you're emailing.

I don't text. I usually email between 9am - 10pm.

If you're unsure of your Ts boundaries around out of session contact, I would ask him about it to clear any doubts.

Do you guys think all our emails wind up copied and into our file? I'll have to ask T about that.

I email at any tome day or night. Texting, I try not to text him past his normal working hours. He has texted me way later, but would only initiate that late if it were an emergency.

I would say no later than 10 pm. But my therapist has responded, to emails I've sent earlier, after 12 am.

I would just put myself in their shoes...how late at night would you still want to be working? Or helping/ talking to a client?

Or just ask your T if she has a time limit for that.

I've never texted or emailed a T. My T called me once or twice at home.. and I didn't really like it... so, I wouldn't feel right about contacting a T between sessions.

I never email my T and I only text to schedule and reschedule appointment and usually don't text after 6 as that's the latest T will see clients,sometimes T will text back later but I won't respond because of the time

I think I texted my T one time at like 9:00 or 9:30 pm...but I know he works till 9:00pm and we had just finished our appt. around 8pm the same night. I only texted about scheduling though....oh yeah, and one time or two before that, T texted me back late, late - like 11pm. So I suppose that set the precedent.

idk about other Ts but my T has printed out and saved almost all my emails. he keeps them in a locked box.

I can only call her, and she'll only answer her work phone when she's not in session, so it's like playing the lotto when trying to reach her. When I used to reach out it would normally be in the mornings before I went to class.

I only call or text during the day. I've emailed all times of the night though. I did one time call her on her cell at 9 pm but I hung up immediately. I don't know if she saw the call or not, she never mentioned it and neither did I.

I can email or text any time i like, but T only replies weekdays and not after 5.30pm. So evenings and weekends, i know i have to wait 'til the next day/Monday for a reply.

That said, he replies to everything i send, and we tend to email back and forth through the week, processing and clarifying between sessions, so i think i'm pretty lucky.

The Xmas holidays are the hardest. Major triggers for me coinciding with a 3-4 week break for him makes for very messy times. But even then i can send as many emails as i want or need to, and he'll reply two or three times a week, so i try to focus on the positives and keep the whiny 'where are youuuuu, it's not faaaaair, please reply soooon' emails to a minimum.

Yeah, my t also prints out all my emails and places them in my file. They're considered part of the therapy notes.

My T doesn't give out an email, especially texting...

My T and Pdoc print out emails, sign off on them (they are filtered by the admin staff first) and put them in my files. This is an email form within a practice though, not personal email. Mine don't do personal emails or texting. You call and leave a voicemail message anytime on their work phone and they'll always call back, but within office hours.

I'm so jealous you guys get to email and text your Ts....

But Winenot has expressed her strong feelings towards him, she is the client - it's his job as the therapist to maintain boundaries. I think anyone in her position might well try to push boundaries and then experience anxiety that he's actively participating. Texting after midnight, while he knows she's high (for a non emergency) does seem a bit odd. Perhaps I'm biased, as everything I've heard about this man doesn't feel right to me - she is effectively trying to play a game (which is what a client will do, especially one going through strong ET) and he is playing right into it.

Sorry, I didn't realise this was an old thread. Hope you're ok winenot x

It seems all good and well at first, but have you read the many, many anxious posts that deal with:

- The therapist not replying back timely
- Disappointment with the content in the replies
- Misunderstanding on both ends
- Regrets about what was said via email or text

If you can manage between sessions and keep a connection, you're saving yourself a lot of headache and stress by not engaging.

My T1 allowed email communications, but wasn't consistent with replies. Emailing caused me more anxiety than what I was hoping to achieve with the email in the first place. I put up my own boundary that I wouldn't contact him unless it was an emergency. Generally, I was able to stick to it with a few lapses. Stress level went way down, even though it was hard to resist the impulse to email.

T2 hasn't said one way or another if she allows emails. If I need to reschedule, I text her. I'm not even going there.

Back to the original questions - I think emailing at any time is fine since T's will typically get to emails when they can. Non-emergency texting I would reserve for your T's normal business hours.