[A18793715]

First therapist didn't work out. So I found another one with specialties that fit me and is perfect. She emailed me the 25 page intake and I filled it out and sent it back to her and when I did, I asked her if I could write her a letter and she replied saying I could even send it before my session if I wanted. Since I had wrote the letter anyways the night before she replied, I closed my eyes and sent itt to her. It was a 5 page letter explaining the last 4 months and how I feel and everything. Now I'm scared of going to my first session because I know she will have read it by then and I don't know. I guess I feel like I'm already being secretly judged and ridiculed.

Now, I'm scared of opening up because I don't want to get attached to her or any t. How do you avoid attachment?

[HazelGirl]

You don't. It will happen. But it's not a bad thing. Just talk about it as it happens and that will make things a lot easier.

[wotchermuggle]

You know what? It's perfectly okay to feel like this and to tell your new therapist how you feel.

When I changed therapists, one of the first things I asked was "Can we do therapy without me becoming dependent on you, because I don't want to go through that again."

It really, REALLY makes a difference in therapy when you just attack these feelings/fears head on. Your therapist will want to understand where you're coming from and that can help where you go in the future.

Don't be scared!! Just be honest.

I often say to my t that I feel foolish and ridiculous. I guess it is common to feel that way. I think that iT is only successful if you do get attached - I think it is a necessary pre-requisite.

Not everybody feels attached to their therapist. And that's fine, too, as long as the therapy is working.

[A18793715]

I don't want to get attached because it'll just make my abandonment issues worse, I feel.

I feel like everything is pointless. Meds don't work. I don't want to get attached to someone who's main goal is to leave me "when I'm ready". I don't even want to try therapy at this point because I don't know how to open up without getting attached.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I had every intention to not get attached to my current T. It failed: I was attached after the second session...

I did a similar thing as you did, with writing up past events and giving it to my T. I did it first session and mine encopmassed 90% of my past. My T found it very helpful. It gave her a starting point and a glimpse into who I was and what I needed. I have been with her for a year now, and we have a very strong relationship.

I hope things work out for you with your new T!

[ScarletPimpernel]

Originally Posted by A18793715

I don't want to get attached because it'll just make my abandonment issues worse, I feel.

I feel like everything is pointless. Meds don't work. I don't want to get attached to someone who's main goal is to leave me "when I'm ready". I don't even want to try therapy at this point because I don't know how to open up without getting attached.

It might make your abandonment issues worse. But those issues are also affecting your life. So the hope of therapy is to learn how to cope with your issues.