Nervous about P-doc

I have been seeing my P-doc once a month for about three years now and I still get very nervous.

I was sitting in the waiting room, waiting for "my turn" for P-doc and I was thinking of all the many things I had to say.

I was going to march right in, crawl into the corner and sit on the floor, sobbing and rocking back and forth as I spilled my guts.

When it was "my turn" for the couch, I walked in, sat down and P-doc asked, "So, how's it going?"

I promptly responded with a smile, "Fine, thank you."
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So I wrote about it. I hope you don't mind if I share it here. I posted it before in Creative but think it fits here nicely.

I gave it to P-doc. She wanted to get into this whole fear of death conversation.

Waiting

Through the wooden blinds that cover the window, a small sharp morsel of light breaks through and glares at me through the slats. It demands my attention, demands that I squint, demands acknowledgement. Instead I look away. I shift in my chair. I pick at my fingernails. Go away light.

I'm fond of the blinds that shut out the sun. That annoying, cheery sun. Within these four protected walls my thoughts can race-race-race. Race until I drop. Race until I scream. Race until I jump out of my skin. Race until it's couch time.

The blinds keep out the prying eyes of the normal as we wait for our turns on the couch.

I look back the point of light and see it has shifted. A smirky "told-you-so" attitude blinks out a Morse code message.

You can't shut me out. I will not be blocked. I will not go away. I am the light and I will find you.

Perhaps this is what it's like when the spotlight of death shines on you. Perhaps it's a game of seduction and intrigue as you're led to the other side. A peaceful place where life is death and death is life and both are filled with light. And the light is warm. And the light penetrates your soul. Perhaps death is love. Perhaps...

The door opens and I'm startled. I tense up and wait for my heart to slow. I slide my eyes to my hands and swing my keys around my finger. Jingle-jingle-jingle. Legs walk to the reception window. A pen scribbles the time of arrival. Legs turn and walk to a chair tucked away in the corner. Far away from the rest of us who wait in different corners for our turn on the couch.

We'll come to know each other by our shoes. Miss High-Heels, Mr. Nike, Sexy Sandals. We won't make eye contact but we'll glance at each other when we know it's safe. We do this to see what a crazy person looks like. To see if there's a small chance we might look like them.

A quick flash catches my eye and I'm drawn back to the light. It sparkles through the glass like a highly-polished diamond. The colorless patterns are ever-changing like a kaleidoscope without color. I'm relieved to stare at something other than shoes.

Tapping feet, drumming fingers, eyes closed tight in thought. Flap-flap the magazine pages turn but the blank eyes do not read. I take my pen out and capture the moment on a crumpled scrap of paper. I will write about this later.

The door that leads to the couch opens. It's Nike's turn. I make a list of all the things I need to talk about. All the ups and downs, the highs and lows, the twists and turns. When it's my turn on the couch I will not sit on it. Instead I'll go to the corner and sit on the floor. I'll hug my knees close to my chest and rock back and forth. Share things I've never told another soul. Sob as I reveal my desire for the light. Sob as I reveal my fear of it.

My name is called. The others in the waiting room think, it's Casual Slip-On's turn. I nervously walk the length of the hallway into the room where I sit on the edge of the couch. I'm vigilant and perched, ready to fly. Ready to cry. Ready to...

"So, how's it going? How are you doing?"

My turn on the couch is here.

I smile.

"Fine, thank you."

© 2006 SJN

((((((((((((((( Petunia )))))))))))))))

((Petunia)) Thanks for sharing that.

((( Fuzzy )))

((( mouse_ )))

Thanks for taking the time to read it.

((((((((((((( Pet )))))))))))))))

Oh my gosh.... Now I'm sure we're related.

Jan

Lovely Petunia, very vivid for me I could just see it all in my head.......

Inspires me to write out my therapy experiences, I may just do that if only I could be as eloquent.

Great writing! Thanks for sharing, I could really picture it.

Sidony

so well written, i was there with you.

take care,

jinnyann xxx

Thanks everone. I figured you could all relate to the tension of waiting...

After P-doc read this, the next time I saw her she said "See that door over there? Open it." I thought it was a closet and never paid it too much attention as I was close enough to the main door in case I ever needed to escape.

I opened it and found a mini- waiting room with two chairs, a table and an entrance to the outside. She said if sitting in the waiting room was causing me distress, I could come around the back and wait in there.

Of course, now I'm always paranoid that someone is out there waiting when I'm with P-doc.

(She assured me it stays locked)

My pdoc and her team let me go in the back into the snack room and wait. I'm more than welcome to help myself to any goodies there, watch tv, or do whatever. They know I don't do well in the tiny waiting room when it's crowded.

I do so understand!

Hugs,

Jan

Unbelievable, Jan,

We truly are related.

I found that neat to read. I hope your P doc visits go okay.

((( Sarah )))

Thanks!

I loved your writing!

I wait in the car for T to come to the back door and sneak me in.

Who would've thought!

We have to be related. We're elfers!