Dad issues

This is a bit annoying. I was talking about something. T said 'that's your Dad stuff'. I said, 'what?' and he said, 'yes, when you were little, x happened, and that was what your dad did, and caused a lot of damage'
I know my father wasn't perfect, but does every woman's problems go back to her relationship with her father?
T asked me to write a letter to my father and bring it into session. I can't give it to my father. It's not for him actually. it's just a chance to express how I feel. And boy, there's a lot of anger. And a lot of tears. Wish me luck getting through the next three weeks!

I don't think every women's problems go back to their father, I barely mention my father in therapy, he is not the issue. In your post you talk about a lot of anger towards your father - sounds like an issue for you?

Not every problem. But he could be the root of a lot of problems, if he was an inept father.

I think it's usually mother & father issues... but yeah, children need good fathers, it's important.

I too do not think that every girl's problems come from her father. Mothers can be just as damaging. Or it might not even be either parent's fault. Anyhow, it is rather miffing that he insists yours (have you told him otherwise)?

Wishing you lots of luck!! I find writing letters to be very therapeutic. I don't address them to my parent though as it makes me uncomfortable even on paper, so I narrate to my T instead.

I so very much wish you the best with this. it's exactly what i'm working with right now - my "Dad stuff" - which for me also includes a LOT of anger. I have recently found that I have just a ton of anger buried deep, deep inside and have been feeling such terrible self hatred because of it and I get to talk with T about it in about an hour. it is so hard!! but we can do it!!!!!

The more I write, the more angry I get! I thought it was supposed to make me feel better. I hope I can get in to see T soon. I have been crying over memories as well. Times when he made me feel shameful and worthless.

He did a lot of damage to me psychologically when I was little. I'm trying to forgive him. There's some stuff I haven't yet.
This is a letter I will not give to him. But I guess it's a good way to try and verbalize all my feelings towards him. My T wants me to have some peace when my father dies. My mother died very suddenly so I didn't get that chance.

How we view the world has a lot to do with our original caregivers. Not to explore those roots would do you an injustice.

Seems to me you do have a lot of daddy issues, doesn't mean everybody (female) has...that's a bit overgeneralising.
Hope the letter helps you, I personally hated the write-them-a-letter technique.