If you could ask your T one question...

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pinksoil said:
I actually did ask my T last week "What are you thinking?"

And being the good analyst that he is, he answered...

"What do you think I'm thinking?"

Sigh.

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See now that would just %#@&#! me off..... Gr!

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I think I would actually like that question. I would definitely answer! I can be shy and if T gave me an invitation to tell him what I thought he was thinking, I would totally dive right in! I bet it would lead to a great discussion. Often I think he must be thinking "How can this woman be so stupid? Why can't she see what she should do? Arrgghhh!" That's what I think he's thinking. Wonder if it's true?

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Talulah said:
I think i'd be afraid to ask for a tape............hmmmmm.......gotta think about that on. Would LOVE to have one....

Pinksoil............it is all of you and this great thread that gave me the courage because no matter what the answer, I would have grown. And, i have this place to share......

really when I think about it, would they honestly say, "yea, ya know, I wish I would've passed on you". So maybe it wasn't truly the 'answer' to the sepcific question that was being sought, just maybe what the asking led to.....it led to openness and closeness and more trust.....and me reaching and she....reaching...and us, going together. So, don't fear the answers guys, you know the risk in asking may provide you with more insight into your t and into your relationship with your t.

LOL pinksoil about what your t said.......what did you say back?

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I went into my whole, "You must be thinking how far gone I am, and that you really wish you could deport me right out of here." After I said that, he had his "amused" face on, haha.

Then he provided me with some great reality testing... it was actually really nice to hear... When we were talking about coming to more than one session per week, he asked me what were the reasons that led me to believe it wouldn't be feasible. I said, "Because you wouldn't want me here more than once per week. You're probably thinking-- she is so attached and pathetic-- twice per week is just going to make it worse." And he said something to the effect of "Ok. Now what about some logical reasons? It was really great because he said it in such a warm way, and it really made me feel as if it was completely alright with him if I need him more than once per week. I was able to see that I was distorting the situation (as usual), and that he really didn't want to kick my *** out the door.

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When we were talking about coming to more than one session per week, he asked me what were the reasons that led me to believe it wouldn't be feasible. I said, "Because you wouldn't want me here more than once per week. You're probably thinking-- she is so attached and pathetic-- twice per week is just going to make it worse." And he said something to the effect of "Ok. Now what about some logical reasons? It was really great because he said it in such a warm way, and it really made me feel as if it was completely alright with him if I need him more than once per week.

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That is such a great discussion! I think you have a great relationship with your T. He sounds so accepting, and good at getting you to open up too.

Yay Pinksoil!!!! Keep up the great work, he sounds wonderful. Distorted thinking really gets to us and T can help us 'see' it if wh share it, like you did, when it's happening!

You're bravery paid off, yay!

Just ONE question? Hmmmm several go through my mind such as some from those "Get to know your friends" post on myspace......what is your favorite color? whats your favorite movie? song? do you regret anything? Boxers? or shorts? (guy question sorry) what did you REALLY think of DID when you heard about it in your study to become a T? Um did you hear about DID in your study? Do you think I am a complete moron and should just get on with life or what? Why can't we just do a marathon session day and get this over with? Actually I know why.....its just the thought came so I put it here! Who do YOU talk to? Oh there could be so many to choose from.

I use to tape my sessions many moons ago....it was actually unnerving to hear my voice stwitch with the different alters. But it was a learning experience.

T

(I already know his answers to most all of those questions Guess 18 years of therapy lets you understand your T some too? )