This morning, T gave me a referral to another T, based on an issue that came up in session. I’m assuming the issue falls outside of her area of expertise. I feel devastated – half insecurity that T is trying to dump me (she didn’t mention not seeing her anymore, but still), and half disappointment that wonderful T doesn’t have all the answers. I was choking back tears for the last 10 minutes, and bawled on my way in to work. It really illuminated that I care a lot about T, and that I also feel really insecure and vulnerable in the relationship. Most of the time, I doubt that T truly cares about me at all (even though she does a lot of caring things), so being referred to additional help feels like rejection. Has this happened to anyone else?

I’m sure it will make good material for next session, if I can muster up the guts to talk about it.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I haven't been referred to another T, but she did/is trying to get me to go to group. At first, it really felt like she was rejecting me and like I was too much for her. After much reassurance, I know that is no longer the case.

Also, the first time I saw my current T, she started suggesting other types of therapy. I completely flipped out. I was so upset because it seemed like I had just met her and she was already pushing me away. Again, that wasn't the case.

[junkDNA]

i had a similar situation that scarlet had. when i first started working with my T he wanted me to go to this intensive inpatient trauma program in a different state. i was for sure he was rejecting me and trying to tell me that im too messed up for him to help me. but i know now he was only trying to help me get thru my constant crises. and it wasnt even like he was leaving me bc i could have come back to see him when after i went thru that program. but yeah in the end i decided not to do it