[Abby]

I'm going through the worst few weeks...actually make that months. I've not been well at all finishing therapy and everyone is saying I should try another kind that will help me more (e.g ex-therapist). I'm tired of therapy but I'll admit I need help, especially currently as finishing the last therapy has been, and continues to be, challenging for me. I'm not good at ends it seems.

I'm grateful they've arranged this new therapy to start quickly so as to help me end the other therapy better but it has nonetheless been a painful few weeks. I am anxious about going this week and although I've been told I can email my questions, I'm not brave enough to. I hold myself back because I don't know her and I'm scared.

I'm very tired and overwhelmed these days. Going to this new therapy is supposed to help but it's also an additional stressor....another thing to find the energy for. I doubt it'll help within the first week or two so it'll mean more tiredness without too much benefit.

Sorry, I'm complaining. I don't know what I want.

[guilloche]

(((Abby)))

Transitions are hard for me too... I hate the not knowing how things will work on the other side... You mentioned that you're not brave enough to email questions to the new T? Are there any questions that you'd feel ok asking her, that maybe don't feel as big? Would getting some kind of response from the new T help ease things a bit for you at all?

Good luck... do you have an appointment set up yet with the new T? I hope everything goes smoothly and your new T is perfect for you!

[Abby]

I'm bad with change and endings and basically therapy!

My main questions are purely simple things like - do I have to say I've arrived? How will you greet me? Can I not pay at the front desk? None of those things I did before on agreement with my previous therapist because I found receptionists changed and I didn't like saying my name out loud or being in too close contact to them. I know that sounds wierd but I get anxious easily and I prefer to slip in and out without anyone knowing, if I can. A response may help me but what if I ask too much and she thinks it is all a bit lame? Besides I have no idea what I feel right now and wonder if asking questions gives her power etc. I over think don't I?!

I'm sad all the time so I hope this eases the stress and doesn't add to it. Very nervous!

[Bill3]

(((((Abby)))))

I hope that the new therapy goes well!

[guilloche]

Originally Posted by Abby

I'm bad with change and endings and basically therapy!

My main questions are purely simple things like - do I have to say I've arrived? How will you greet me? Can I not pay at the front desk? None of those things I did before on agreement with my previous therapist because I found receptionists changed and I didn't like saying my name out loud or being in too close contact to them. I know that sounds wierd but I get anxious easily and I prefer to slip in and out without anyone knowing, if I can. A response may help me but what if I ask too much and she thinks it is all a bit lame? Besides I have no idea what I feel right now and wonder if asking questions gives her power etc. I over think don't I?!

I'm sad all the time so I hope this eases the stress and doesn't add to it. Very nervous!

Hi Abby!

Wow, I can really relate to this a lot. I'm terrible at therapy too, and change, and endings .

I think your questions are very reasonable, they are very logistics-oriented, so I can't imagine a T would have trouble with them.

Is this T at the same location as previous T?

Asking these questions does NOT give her all the power. It gives YOU power by speaking up for needs, making your needs known, and getting information that you need to be safe and comfortable! All good things!

And, they're not lame at all! Just an objective view, I don't see how she'd consider them lame.

Good luck! I hope you're able to ask, and maybe able to let her know in the email your preferences too... (so instead of just, "Do I have to do this...?" I'd say, "I prefer to not do this... but do this instead. This makes me uncomfortable, and I really preferred this other way that old T let me do.")

Good luck!