[Ad Intra]

I have this fear of T giving up on me. I've been seeing her for 9 months and the whole time we've dealt with trauma. I still am afraid of my abuser (my step-mom) and have emotional reactions to my dad (who allowed the abuse to go on). I'm afraid if I keep talking about my emotions and nightmares she'll give up on me.
We only have a few sessions left and I need to just stop talking about it. I'm afraid the sessions will end with her saying, "Sorry, I tried, but there's nothing that can be done for you."
I want to cry.

[musinglizzy]

I've felt the same way. Always told myself therapy wasn't for me cuz in the end they'd say they couldn't help me. I've shared this fear with my T several times also, starting from the very beginning...and she continues to remind me she will not abandon me....

[ThisWayOut]

Trauma is a tough thing to tackle. I don't think t will give up on you... it takes a lot of patience and work, and it takes you being in a place (emotionally) to be able to do the work. I've been processing my traumas on and off for going on 18 years (new ones have since surface and I ignored my traumas for a lot of years in between, so don't take that to mean that your processing will necessarily take that long)... a good t will not give up on you. It also has an end in sight (Hugs)

[guilloche]

(((Ad Intra)))

Why do you say you only have a few sessions left? Is there a reason things might be ending soon?

I don't think your T will give up on you. Someone here once reminded me that Ts have made it their life calling to listen to people's problems and try to help. As long as your showing up and doing your part, she won't give up on you!

Is this something you can talk to her about? I bet she'll tell you the same thing!

[MoxieDoxie]

Oh I was a afraid of the same thing. I felt he would realize that he was not qualified or experience enough to help me and refer me out or that I would overwhelm him or become a burden that he would terminate me. I sent him an email asking him to please don't give up on me. He said he never would and he has kept his promise. He has been committed in finding was, conventional and unconventional, to help me.

[hellboy]

The T is not a magician, you help yourself by going through the process. They merely facilitate.

Hellboy

I am having this problem with my t at this very moment. I ask him to tell me regularly that he's not going to 'throw me overboard'. I go a few weeks & then I get it into my head that he is going to just tell me that |I am too difficult, too challenging or that he doesn't want to work with me anymore. It's tough when your insticts tell you that being abandoned is what always happens!!

If it did happen, and most therapists don't abandon their clients, but you would survive. I was abandoned after seven years and I survived. It has been horribly painful, but I have survived.

If a therapist suddenly chooses not to work with someone it most likely isn't about you at all, but the therapist's issues.

ummmm. I've been in therapy for 4 years and am still dealing with trauma stuff. My T keeps telling me that I am not taking too long, but I feel like a remedial therapy client.