What is your focal point in your session?

Well there's kind of a circuit that I do. Let's see...
Her eyes/face
The clock
Painting with swirly patterns on the wall behind her
The table by her armchair
The rivets on the upholstery of her armchair
The books on her shelf (though since she's moved offices I don't have as good a view of them)
The sky through her window
Her shoes
Her hands
And then back to her face if I'm feeling up to it.

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My Ts crotch. Yes it's awkward...

I look at the crazy patterned rug on the floor.

For three years, it's mostly been T's shoes, or a spot on the carpet just to the side of his shoes.

But we switched to sitting on the floor recently, side by side, backs to the wall (trying it out as a possible workaround for some intense fear i'm experiencing). As well as looking up and around the room more, i've noticed i also turn and look at T sometimes. And not just at his shoes, at his face. Eye contact, even.

It's surprised us both. And I can see that T is really liking it. I'm kind of liking it, too.

I typically focus on one specific bookshelf on the bookcase directly across from me. She has a small clock on the end table next to where she sits that I used to stare at, but I noticed myself getting all worked up at how much or how little time I had left in my appointment, so have to force myself to not look at it.

the fringe on my scarf

I was feeling bad for not being able to actually look at her, thanks for this thread. I was thinking about this the other day. I focus on her shoes (best shoe collection for an older lady) or at the crooked clock behind her or her bookshelf. Pretty much anywhere but directly at her unless we are talking after session just to talk about our dogs, goofy husbands, or whatnot.

I mostly look in her eyes or I will look at the ground if im thinking about something. Sometimes I will look at what shes wearing or at her hair, she has really nice hair.

at the door.

I look at her, away at the floor or room, gesture with hands to make a point, back at her (eye contact is a bit of a problem for me), agree/disagree/suggest alternative view, for 50 mins of non-stop talking. @£45 per session I am not going to waste a minute, prepare thoroughly, don't hold back - we go at a fair old lick.

The trash basket, the door, his shoes, his tie. Sometimes I forget he's there until I come up for air and then his eyes right before I leave.

I look at her. When I don't, she inquires why.