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So how often does your therapist have to cancel? This is something I've been wondering about after seeing posts complaining about canceled sessions. I guess I'm very lucky here. I've been seeing my therapist a little over a year now: He's been away 3 times I think, and all 3 times he gave me at least 2 weeks' notice that he was away. He has never canceled at the last minute (though I've had to call and rearrange a few times when I couldn't make it). I'm realizing that I'm very lucky in this. Next week I think I'm going to tell him how much I appreciate that.
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I dunno... I guess we have had a few cancellations... Started seeing him near the end of October. I had a couple weeks off when I went overseas on conference... Then he wanted a couple weeks off over Christmas (he told me maybe 2 sessions before it happened). Then we had 2 weeks back then he wanted another couple weeks off (one Friday was a public holiday and the next he had a conference / workshop). Then his car broke down (but we managed to reschedule that one). Then this week he was sick. But it was meant to be the first of our two sessions in one week so I guess I'm not really missing out.
And he is going to take a month off next month. So I guess we have had lots of interruptions. Hard, yeah. Over christmas was hard for me. And I was FUMING about the public holiday and the conference (because he was working the other four days normally) but it got BOTH my sessions :-( And I'm not happy about this month that is coming up... It is hard yeah. |
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I've been seeing my T since October and he has never canceled. I canceled once the day of the session due to snow. We have had a couple of interruptions. He had a hard time making space for me in the schedule at first, so there was a gap of a month between our first and second session. We each took the same week off over Christmas, and I took a week off last month for vacation. But I don't consider these cancellations.
With my first counselor, she cancelled only once. In fact, she never even showed up because she was involved in a car accident. She was extremely apologetic about that, but heck, she was hit by a car and injured, so it's not like it was avoidable. With this counselor, I canceled many times with her or called to reschedule. I was really, really bad and had a hard time committing to therapy with her. ![]()
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yeah. i guess most of those interruptions weren't exactly cancellations. hard to say. i guess it was just the time his car broke down and then yesterday 'cause he was sick.
i wonder if i should call just to check in on thursday that he is back at work... don't want to get up at 6am just to receive a call at half 7 when i'm on the bus there already... |
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My T has cancelled twice on me at the last moment, once was two days before his wedding and he just misjudged his timing and couldn't make it to the office which although I was upset at the time it was understandable afterwards. The second time that the cancelled was last minute and I actually told him that I was upset/angry with him because although he had an excuse and apologized over and over, I was angry and he agreed that he was angry at himself for cancelling and misjudging time (again) and that I had every right to be angry with him.
On the other hand, he has scheduled me in for emergency appts. whenever I needed them, scheduled me for appts. while he was suppose to be on holidays/his honeymoon just to make sure that I made it through the week and a half off that he was taking and even came in for a day over Christmas break to see me. I think that those efforts of supporing me through my rough times makes up for two times that he has cancelled on me at the last minute. The only time that I have cancelled on him was not necessarily a cancellation but when I was away for 2 weeks. |
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In a year, this only happened twice but for the same reason which turned out to be legitimate. Of course, I jumped to the wrong conclusions and thought he was trying to get rid of me.
I would absolutely suffer big time if he cancelled regularly. I feel bad for any of you that experience that.
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The only times my T has ever cancelled were before Christmas and Thanksgiving, but he let me know like 87 weeks in advance because he probably knew I would flip out.
This week, plus the next two, he has switched it to a different day during the week. But other than holidays, he has never cancelled before. Not even once. In the past when he has told me he won't be here for the week of a holiday I always try to act all cool and casual, like, "Oh... ok. That's fine." When really, inside, I'm having a massive mental breakdown. Once when we couldn't have therapy for two weeks in a row because of the Christmas holiday, he suggested we do a phone session. We did, and I almost died. I hated it. It was so weird just talking to him on the phone for an extended period of time. I don't know what's wrong with me. Can I handle anything? No. |
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Cancellations? Wow almost never. I think he's been ill twice? There was some days after Hurricane Andrew destroyed everything when he and his partner had to find new office space. I don't count his or my "vacations" from therapy as cancellations because they are expected and normal. But even so, when I'm on one of my jaunts, phone sessions are always set up (and they are really helpful for me.) I doubt I would be going and doing anything if I couldn't have a phone session to keep me balanced
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Never in all the time I've been seeing her--about 3 years, maybe longer. I've called & rescheduled & once cancelled the day of the appt. due to snow. See her tomorrow. She hasn't ever taken a vacation that interferes with my seeing her. I used to see her once a week, now every 2 weeks except when I'm traveling. One other thing that maybe makes a difference is she only works 3 days a week, but has always gotten me in if I'm in a crisis. I guess so far I've only had a crisis on the days she works!--Suzy
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I started seeing my pdoc in feb. 2005 and she has never cancelled a session except for one day when she was sick. Now that she is director of the place, she doesn't do therapy except med. visits so I've been seeing a psychologist there since December 2006 and she has never cancelled a session once, even when we had the bad storm on Valentine's Day.
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I had a permanent "slot" and we always worked around to another date before something that was happening in the normal time so we didn't miss any sessions. I only had one unscheduled cancellation in 9 years and that was due to a death in my T's family that took a week longer than my T "planned."
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Never in the 3 yrs I've been seeing her.
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I've been seeing my for about 5 years and get cancelled on quite a lot. He gets sick very easily and so misses a lot of work. But he gave me the number I can call to get straight to his phone and will call me back as soon as possible. I can also call that number after hours to avoid having to talk to the on call therapist who I usually don't like. He checks his messages at least once a night and calls me back.
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#14
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Never in 2 years........
Pdoc missed me once though......."mixup" it was called.... |
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She almost never canceled then in the last 2 months she has canceled 2-3 of my sessions a week. It frustrates me to no end
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In the year and a half that I have been in therapy she has cancelled twice and both times it has been due to snow. Both cancellations have in fact been this winter. She has been very good about giving plenty of notice when she is going on vacation
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I don't consider a T's vacation to be canceled sessions. My T gives me at least 2 weeks' notice of his vacations anyway. I've been seeing him for about 4 years now and I think he's never canceled a scheduled session with me (I know he had to with others but I expect it might have been just once or twice). He's asked me to change the time by 30 minutes a couple of times, the day before session, but that was it.
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Actually, I remember once he worked with me even when I think he wasn't emotionally well enough to be working with me. I kind of wish he had canceled that session.
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My T has never ever cancelled. I've never even seen the woman take a vacation. I'm usually the one who's canceling or quitting.
I guess I'm pretty lucky in that category,there has been a few times where I waited too long to schedule and our schedules didn't match but never cancelled. |
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About once a year or so.. we all get sick from time to time so it has never bothered me when she has had to cancel
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Never. She's very emotionally and physically healthy. Good role model.
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She's cancelled once in ten months, and the time she cancelled she re-scheduled me for the same day just three hours later. On her lunch break
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Mine never cancels and it's been almost a year. I told him last week that I sometimes feel badly coming on days when the weather is really bad. I said he needs a break from me. He just said that was "interesting"....
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She never cancelled a session in the 18 months I saw her.
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