[ThingWithFeathers]

Normally, my t and I sit about 3ft apart from each other. Occasionally, she has come and sat next to me on the couch or pulled her chair very close and sat beside. However, last session we sat on the floor together. That was comforting to me - to be able to sit like that and have her join me

What seating arrangements do you and your t have? Any impromptu seating changes during session?

[callisto711]

I used to sit in a chair about 3-4 feet from her, but I've begun sitting on the floor. I think I would feel terrible if she sat on the floor with me and messed up her nice clothes lol.

[always_wondering]

I guess he is about 4 feet from me. I did find it interesting when I wanted to show him something. He said, "I'm going to sit next to you, is this ok?" I thought it a bit odd, but I get it. Some people would be uncomfortable with the closeness.

[JaneTennison1]

Originally Posted by always_wondering

I guess he is about 4 feet from me. I did find it interesting when I wanted to show him something. He said, "I'm going to sit next to you, is this ok?" I thought it a bit odd, but I get it. Some people would be uncomfortable with the closeness.

I always ask my T before I sit near her to show her something and she always asks me. I feel it's a respect of both our boundaries to just check in that it's ok to be in each others space. Doesn't happen often. Mostly we sit about 4ft apart.

[stopdog]

The first one sits in a chair that has a coffee table separating her from the awful wretched couch for clients. She has no chair for clients. I guess it is about 4 or 5 feet away. I find it good the coffee table is there to keep her away. I would not like her to come at me.
The second has a smaller office but rolls her chair back away from me to stay back. I sit in a chair.

I would not want impromptu changes. I do not like the therapist coming at me.

[AncientMelody]

My psychiatrist sits behind her desk and I sit on a couch, as you say about 3-4 feet away. When I have something from my journal I want to go into more in depth then she'll pull her chair beside me and look with me.

Currently we sit about 1300 miles apart, her in her home office and me in mine. When I still saw her in person, she sat in her rocking chair about 3 feet away and I sat on the couch, with a little round wicker table in between.

eta: it's interesting that during our phone sessions, it does not at all feel like she is that far away. When I talk to my mom who lives about the same distance away in the other direction, I feel the distance and am glad for it.

[Petra5ed]

My T seems to sit far away, like 6 ft in my memory. Occasionally he has say next to me for a brief time. A few times he has sat in a different chair than usual, and a couple times he sat on the couch and me in his chair.

[ScarletPimpernel]

My T sits about 2 ft away from me. She can't move her chair because it's too heavy. But if either one of us leans forward, we can touch the other and/or show each other things. She has sat next to me on the couch once (she didn't ask, but she knew I wouldn't mind). And we once sat on the floor together (to play with the puppy)...we were a good 4 ft apart.

[sweepy62]

About 2 feet away, when I show her pics or she shows me something on the computer we sit next to each other.

[harvest moon]

He sits definitely far away, at around 8-10 feet from me. It never changes. Only once or twice in 5 years, we sat for a couple of minutes next to each other to read something or show one another something. I am very sensitive to the slightest change and sometimes when he talks to me while walking me to the door, it feels too close; although I long for closeness, it makes me want to hide and puts up my defenses.