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#1
Dec 08, 2014, 11:24 PM
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think I'm going to ask T that our next session be our last. I'm really uncomfortable being her only client left at the agency...
I had a much longer post typed out, but it was t.m.i... kinda really sad about this... and will kinda be on my own then for a while. |
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Dec 08, 2014, 11:31 PM
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I understand that you are a bit uncomfortable but are you sure that you want to do that? I mean is it the best thing you can do for you? If you like her then maybe you should stay with her until you find someone else. The therapy is very important and you deserve to have it as long as possible.
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Dec 08, 2014, 11:43 PM
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we are only supposed to have 2 sessions anyway (terminating by the end of the year and supposed to start with a new T then)... I called today to leave T a message asking to see her this week because I'm struggling. It was evident that I am her only client there. I'm really uncomfortable with any "special" status, regardless of the motivations (even if it's because they may be short on available clinicians till the new year). It's complicated by the emotional reactions I have to this T (I react to her like I do to my abusers. It's probably what's increasing my fear around this arrangement)... I don't want to do this anymore. I don't want to be ungrateful, but I can't handle the added emotional rollercoaster anymore...
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| RedSun
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Dec 09, 2014, 12:58 PM
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If you don't want to do it ... and if you really know that's what you want ... you don't have to ask for it to be the last session. You can just say it. You can even do it graciously if that makes you feel better, thanking her for her help and all that.
It alarms me that you say you react to her like you do your abusers. That's not something that can be worked out in a remaining session or two. If you think you might struggle through the holidays, you might rethink this, but otherwise you can just end it on your own, on your own terms. |
| ThisWayOut
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Dec 09, 2014, 02:44 PM
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We had kinda worked on the transference stuff during therapy, but not enough to switch off the emotional reaction. Maybe when she calls, I'll just tell her I need to talk about potentially making next session our last and see what she says. That way she has time to think about it or get supervision around it before meeting (and if we agree to end therapy then, maybe they can hook me up with someone else sooner rather than later if there's availability)... I know I'm really depressed right now and probablly shouldn't be making bigger decisions, but I don't really know how else to try to feel better. Nothing is working. 
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| SnakeCharmer
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Dec 10, 2014, 07:26 PM
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I'm sorry you're feeling so low. I happen to agree with your sentiment about it not being a good time to make bigger decisions. I feel that way about myself and make it a rule not to make any unnecessary decisions when my emotions are out of kilter, if I can possibly avoid it. It's just better that way. I hope your T is understanding and supportive when you talk to her.
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Dec 11, 2014, 10:49 AM
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I don't think she got my message because she's pretty good about getting back to me even if she doesn't have time. Sucks because now the anxiety over it will be present during my trip this weekend... oh well. If goodbyes were not so important to me, I would just cancel the appointments we have left. :/
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| SnakeCharmer
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Dec 14, 2014, 04:55 PM
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| ThisWayOut
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This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
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