[unaluna]

Blame the google! 82 is a "happy number".

The couch is a thread where aficionados of the psychotherapy fora and fauna come to mix, mix metaphors, and fawn over each other's pets, pics, and progeny. Also to randomly complain, explain, or entertain.

We owe our existence to the insistence of Lola Cabana. All are welcome!

You are advised not to partake of mind-altering substances and then contact your t. You will be virtually slapped with a wet organic shirataki noodle, altho usually we eschew any sort of violence, but those shirataki noodles do be chewy. Also beware of bad puns and flying squirrels.

The thread sometimes moves fast, sometimes moves slow, but its hard to kill. Yelling "Cool Whip" will usually get someone's attention.

You can sit on the old (lower numbered) couch until it hits 100 pages or 1000 posts, then please to move to the new couch. Sometimes people will "decorate" the new couch, or post raggedy ol couches on the old thread, also hilarious.

[stopdog]

What were you smoking again?

[unaluna]

Stay away from the brown acid!!

When I was first diagnosed the junior-in-trainiing pdoc went through my drug and alcohol history, I told him I dropped acid a few times. He looked puzzled until the MHN explained it was LSD. He ws rather young and not from my country, I just thought he'd know what acid was. He was the one who kept me overly sedated as I scared him while I was manic once.

Here is a happy couch or so the website says, I'm colourblind so what would I know
http://www.thevocalsokol.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/2013-03-25-14.37.39.jpg

I think that needs to be the standard intro to the couch! I love it!

Originally Posted by artemis-within

I think that needs to be the standard intro to the couch! I love it!

Hankster has such a way with words doesn't she. (I hate the my mind is faster thn my fingers and my mouth. just now.

One more pic from my foray into the desert this morning! Ah it so refreshed me being out there. I love southern Arizona.

[NowhereUSA]

At what point do you drop people from your lives? I'm so sick of my parents. On paper they look fantastic but I'm tired of being patronized by them. I've sucked it up for my kids' sake but honestly, I'm so friggin' sick of their attitude and they don't listen to me about it.

[healed84]

Originally Posted by NowhereUSA

At what point do you drop people from your lives? I'm so sick of my parents. On paper they look fantastic but I'm tired of being patronized by them. I've sucked it up for my kids' sake but honestly, I'm so friggin' sick of their attitude and they don't listen to me about it.

I have cut my dad out of my life and both my brothers... It was surprisingly easy!

Someone tell my ex how to it. I even reminded my in-laws that sons were in ther 40's and 50s and not kids who need looking after (read told what to do) constantly. The thing is most of them boys won't stand up to them and give in and do what they told..

[KayDubs]

Originally Posted by artemis-within

One more pic from my foray into the desert this morning! Ah it so refreshed me being out there. I love southern Arizona.

Jealous! If I tried hiking today (outside a medium-sized Mid-Atlantic city), I'd be waist deep in mud signaling for help right now.

It rained here last night, but the ground soaked it right up... the desert smells so fresh right after it rains!

[healed84]

Saw t on Friday.. He said a couple of things that made me think. 1. It's been three years that I have been working with him, and he has never seen me cry once. He thinks it's b/c I still very highly guarded and have my defenses up, I am not getting in touch with the emotions surrounding my trauma. I seriously, can't be the only knew who hasn't cried in therapy after an extended amount of time in therapy? 2. Talking about people being better off without me.. He said that he can't speak for anybody else, but he would be devastated if I were "gone." How am I supposed to believe this? Should this matter to me?

We left the session with him asking me to check in with him tomorrow at some point so I can "contract" for my safety. Which I can deal with because he said he was feeling insecure about my promise to be safe between then and my next session with him.

Life kind of sucks right now.

[UnderRugSwept]

Originally Posted by healed84

Saw t on Friday.. He said a couple of things that made me think. 1. It's been three years that I have been working with him, and he has never seen me cry once. He thinks it's b/c I still very highly guarded and have my defenses up, I am not getting in touch with the emotions surrounding my trauma. I seriously, can't be the only knew who hasn't cried in therapy after an extended amount of time in therapy? 2. Talking about people being better off without me.. He said that he can't speak for anybody else, but he would be devastated if I were "gone." How am I supposed to believe this? Should this matter to me?

We left the session with him asking me to check in with him tomorrow at some point so I can "contract" for my safety. Which I can deal with because he said he was feeling insecure about my promise to be safe between then and my next session with him.

Life kind of sucks right now.

Healed ,

I think I have cried maybe once in front of my T I have been seeing for about 3 years. And I do believe your T cares quite a bit about you from what you have posted about him (you appear to have a good relationship), but I highly dislike when people say things like how devastated they would be if you were gone...it's like emotional blackmail to keep you here. Ugh. I just think there has to be a different (better) way to approach it?

[KayDubs]

Originally Posted by healed84

Saw t on Friday.. He said a couple of things that made me think. 1. It's been three years that I have been working with him, and he has never seen me cry once. He thinks it's b/c I still very highly guarded and have my defenses up, I am not getting in touch with the emotions surrounding my trauma. I seriously, can't be the only knew who hasn't cried in therapy after an extended amount of time in therapy? 2. Talking about people being better off without me.. He said that he can't speak for anybody else, but he would be devastated if I were "gone." How am I supposed to believe this? Should this matter to me?

We left the session with him asking me to check in with him tomorrow at some point so I can "contract" for my safety. Which I can deal with because he said he was feeling insecure about my promise to be safe between then and my next session with him.

Life kind of sucks right now.

1. It took me well over three (combined, not consecutive) years and a few different Ts to cry in front of one of them.

2. I'd believe it, but I know my current T wouldn't throw around a word like "devastated" unless she truly meant it. Although I definitely see Elsewhere's point - I can see why it might feel manipulative or "blackmail-ey".

Re: life sucking right now...I get it.

[unaluna]

(((Healed))) in annie hall, annie comes back from her first t appointment, is telling arnie/woody about it, and finishes up her story with "and then i cried." He goes, "you cried? All these years (8), i never cried."

The first time i saw the movie, in a theater in the 70's, the audience gasped when Woody said he had been in therapy for 8 years. We were so young and foolish then. Now, its 8 years - sheesh what a lightweight!

[stopdog]

Healed-it has been 4 years I have been seeing two of them and I have not cried. The first one tried to tell me I should cry near her, but even her talking about it gave me a panic attack.

I've been seeing mine for 4+ yrs and I've only cried once when in first session but it just a single little sob, I've not cried since then, now I just dissociate as in my world crying is punishable.

CE you really need to speak to International Institute of Cartographers. or whoever they areI am trying to find a world map for my D assignment. We are used having Tasmania not always there, but NZ is all over the place. On one map it looks you could swim to Australia, one you were so far down you could be part of Antartica and on one map you didn't exist at all.

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by Bipolarartist

CE you really need to speak to International Institute of Cartographers. I am trying to find amap for my D assignment. We are used having Tasmania not always there, but NZ is all over the place. On one map it looks you could swim to Australia, one you were so far down you could be part of Antartica and on one map you didn't exist at all.

These are the trials and tribulations of the yurt dwellers.

Originally Posted by stopdog

These are the trials and tribulations of the yurt dwellers.

Like sand throught the hourglass
These are the days of our lives..

Now the man who is not really there is standing near the fridge.
As I was going up the stair
I met a man who wasn't there
He wasn't there again today
Oh How I wish he'd go away.

Was that Ogden Nash
no apparently it was someone called Mearns

The version I remember is
As I was going up the stairs I met a man who wasn't there
He wasn't there again today
I think he's from the CIA.
or something like that

There may not be any more mice updates as 8 babies and mama mouse died. I was transporting them in my car as the pest controllers are coming tomorrow to spray so I thought I take them somewhere safe. I took everything that slip and slide in the cage in case they got hit. I don't know whether it was too hot in the back or maybe petrol fumes. So i am trying to look after the remaining 4 babies which just happen to be 4 of the ones my D wanted to keep. I got some kitten formula from a wildlife carer acquaintance and we'll see if they survive the night. Fingers crossed.