Transitional objects

I'm so sorry, Quiet Mind. You ask for so little. Please don't take this one therapist as representative of all of them.

In answer to your question, no, I don't have a transitional object; but I do take my dog to all my sessions, and he's treated very kindly by my therapist, so in a way he's my bridge. I think that if I really needed something, I would just offer her the option of lending me X or letting me move in. I have a feeling she'd go for the object; but seriously, I feel so comfortable with her that I could say anything and be accepted. I wish you had that.

It's probably different, but still on the topic of objects:

I was re-reading the last email I got from my ex-T (we write each other once a year). In it she said that she had been going through her drawer looking for a paperclip when she found a pin I made her. I used to make flag pins out of safety pins and beads. It's kinda cool that she still had that little thing after 9 years.

She gave me a little beanie baby bear, an angel, and a picture of her. I still have all of them. I have no need to hold the objects, but I will never get rid of them either.

My college counselor gave rocks as transitional objects to some of her students. She called them "warm fuzzies". You hold them in your hand, think of her, and her care would warm up the rock to remind you she's with you. I still have all 4 she gave to me.

Very sweet, Scarlet....

My T lent me a book once. I asked to borrow a book from his office, but he brought two books from his home that were more 'readable' (an author we both enjoy). I was scared to take one b/c it was signed and I was afraid I'd damage it somehow, so I only took one of the two. I was going through a really hard time and was going to visit family...not a cup of tea. I found it did help. A lot, actually. I felt like he really took the time to find something meaningful (not just a pen or a paperclip or something) and trusted me with it. I was able to feel cared about without any kind of big production, just a small book.