The answer is: (Couch) 84. The question is...

It's a social media campaign by Bell Canada in which they donate 5cents to mental health initiatives for every tweet with #bellletstalk or share of their image on facebook. They donate from phone calls too... Not sure how much exactly. I don't have a Bell phone... but I do participate in the social media side of it.

I feel like i have the opposite problem.

Ah. There we disagree.

But, yanno, such is life

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I make no pronouncement about whether intimacy is desirable or not. I know nothing about that. I am not saying that no relationships should contain intimacy. I am saying that it is not a necessary component of a relationship. Since I speak from experience, I don't see where the disagreement could exist. It is a fact that relationships without intimacy exist, and hence it is not a necessary component.

I am going to stay away for a bit, so no need to respond to this.

Sorry if I upset you Mast. We just disagree on the subject. That's alright. Be an awful boring world if everyone agreed on everything, all the time.

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My toddler just woke up from her nap and I can hear her saying "Mommy come put my socks on my feet are naked." Too cute.

Toddlers are too cute. My eldest wanted an elephant for a pet tostay in her room. When I tried to point out an elephant wouldn't fit up the stairs she said "well a giraffe woould, can I have giraffe then?" THing is a giraffe would fit up the stairs.. Naked ffeet lol

LOL! That's cute. It's so funny what they say. I started a journal for my toddler on her first birthday. Since she started talking I have been writing quotes of what she says in it. I figure I will give it to her when she gets married. I've got one for my baby girl too, but I haven't started it yet and obviously she doesn't talk yet.

I just spent half an hour trying to change two of my cartilage piercing earrings. I just couldn't get one of them in for some reason. Then I couldn't get the ball to stay. Silly thing. At least it's done now. I can leave them for another 5 years.

You seem to be channelling Stopdog this week.
I hope you're OK.

I consider myself intimate with the appropriate people. I am not intimate with a therapist, but my partner is someone with whom I would say I have appropriate intimacy. I would not, on my own, call the situation with a therapist a relationship either. So there is that too.

Why did I say i'd speak to the ex on Friday. Thats right because I've got a doctors appt as an excuse to leave. All I'm doing is working myself into a panic about it. Need more distractions....

Yesterday I channeled my inner SD due to snarky school officials and it felt fantastic! What's so scary about being assertive? Well, that whole backbone-dissolving phenomenon. . .

Hugs!! I'm the same way in dealing with all my exes. The working yourself into a panic, the needing a valid reason to get away, all of it. I'm so sorry!!

"Relationships". " intimacy" these are words people use but I think people have different meanings assigned to them.

Websters dictionary defines relationship as ": the way in which two or more people, groups, countries, etc., talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other" so in this manner we have a relationship with lots of people in our daily lives

Websters for English speaking learners defines intimacy as:
: having a very close relationship : very warm and friendly
an intimate acquaintance
They remained intimate friends throughout their lives.
We have an intimate friendship with our neighbors. = We are on intimate terms with our neighbors. [=we are very close friends with our neighbors]
2
: very personal or private
intimate thoughts/feelings
intimate secrets
sharing an intimate moment
[+] more examples
3
: involving sex or sexual relations
They are in an intimate and committed relationship.
He denies that they were ever intimate. = He denies that he was ever intimate with her. [=that he ever had sexual relations with her]

My point is people can say one thing and someone else can hear something completely different.

I think other languages do a better job of having different or more specific words like the Greek words for types of love.

I have intimate platonic relationships and I've had very superficial non-platonic relationships. I think true intimacy, knowing someone (and allowing them to know you) soul-deep is terrifying. That's where pain comes from, allowing another person access to your innermost desires fears and feelings. I much prefer the superficial type at this stage in my life.

I keep playing over in my mind a date i had in tenth grade. The boy's mother made us a sandwich. THAT was too intimate for me! If i ever asked my mother for a sandwich, i would be looking for trouble. What kind of a mother makes a sandwich for their kid and his date?? Way too personal for me. I was accustomed to being completely ignored and not having anywhere in the house to entertain a date. The opposite of intimacy.

So yeah i met my soulmate in high school, but i messed it up. Ever since then, ive been like, why cant i meet someone interested in the things i like?? He was that person, but i couldnt handle it emotionally. I was my mothers daughter. He saw me, but i couldnt stand being seen.

Eta - so now, at least i can CONSIDER that someone might like me the way he did, that not everyone is as cold and rejecting as my family, my exes, etc. I feel like at least now, i know where or how to look.

I tell you that I speak from my own experience and you say that you don't agree. It would be very easy to draw the conclusion that you think I'm lying, but I think that you are just assuming that I'm denying your personal preference - which is definitely not the case.

Again, I am only talking about the actual factual necessity. Not about anybody's individual opinion. It is exactly the same thing as if somebody talks about a spouse as being either male or female, and a heterosexual male saying that he does not agree that a spouse can be male, since for him it could not be an option.

I have not said a single word about my own preferences or whether I think it is better or worse to have intimacy (in any sense of the word, as defined by RTS) in any kind of relationship. That is irrelevant to the discussion, and not interesting to anybody but myself (and maybe to any hypothetical people I might have a very intimate relationship with).

I am not ok. That's why I can allow myself to be honest. I am a hateful person so why pretend otherwise?

RTS discussed different meanings of "intimacy" and "relationship. It is my PERSONAL EXPERIENCE that every kind of relationship that I have experienced is perfectly possible to carry on without involving any one of the types of intimacy listed. I'm not sure how I can express myself more clearly.

had to share a random cat couch pic

Do you want intimacy and don't have it or do you simply not want it? Does it just not happen or or do you have to actively prevent it?
I am usually fine with the levels I have. Sometimes people have wanted more from me.

That looks like a VERY good couch

Can i answer that? I get offered red licorice when i really prefer real, authentic black licorice. I'd rather have no licorice at all then.

Indeed. And that's why I have a job

Yes, English is a very blunt instrument when it comes to discussing this. But it is possible to do so - some people have sometimes claimed that it is impossible to discuss things that there is no lexical word for in your language. (Usually that claim has been made about "primitive" peoples.) But just because English has no term for "to rub snow in someone's face" it doesn't mean that nobody ever talks about it... (Swedish has 96 words for that. Different dialectal words, that is.)

Pardon? I don't know what this means.

For me it is generally not an option. I have one friend I would call intimate.

I imagine all people are, at some time or another, dissatisfied with levels of intimacy. Such levels can be too high or too low for everybody, I assume. What is considered intimate is very much a cultural thing, too. Religious beliefs is a super private thing here, for instance, but in some other countries it is something that can be shared publicly.