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growlycat · Jan 27, 2015, 09:43 PM

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Originally Posted by StressedMess

I'm feeling paranoid tonight as well CE! I think I'm the thread writer that pissed so many people off by endangering her kid. I did get some hurtful yet honest feedback along the line of "WTF are you thinking!!!" and then I asked for the post to be removed.

Some days it takes an outsider to point things out because after a lifetime dysfunction is normal and things I talk about casually cause people to wince and have to force their mouths shut.

So even the posts that piss us off may be begging for a response just from us. My skin is too thin and my backbone only half formed, so I usually avoid or make a quick retreat.

Oh stressed I don't think it was you. I don't remember who it was to be honest. But I think that people who worry about their parenting are probably good parents after all. It's the ones that don't worry or have self awareness that are of concern.

If it was your post I am deeply sorry for sounding judgmental.
It's my own issues bubbling up. I was not the favorite child in my family and I'm not even sure I was liked. Very painful to live through.

catonyx · Jan 27, 2015, 10:31 PM

This probably isn't a good thing... But I feel like I need a new hole in my head or a tattoo.

StressedMess · Jan 27, 2015, 10:37 PM

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Originally Posted by growlycat

Oh stressed I don't think it was you. I don't remember who it was to be honest. But I think that people who worry about their parenting are probably good parents after all. It's the ones that don't worry or have self awareness that are of concern.

If it was your post I am deeply sorry for sounding judgmental.

It's my own issues bubbling up. I was not the favorite child in my family and I'm not even sure I was liked. Very painful to live through.

No don't apologize! I truly don't remember if you responded to that post, but it was one giant trigger and frankly, I was asking for it!

However wrong my choices, i still seek validation or advice. Part of growing and accepting responsibility for my actions is pulling up my big girl panties and listening when I seek input. When posting on a public forum asking for advice, you accept that you're going to hear things you might not like. Doesn't make them any less true!

I'm sorry your childhood was less than stellar! You are well liked among the couchies though!

growlycat · Jan 27, 2015, 10:44 PM

Thanks, stressed. I have moments where I catch myself feeling judgmental and I have to remind myself "this person is asking for help" which says that one cares about others around them.

oh, my childhood lol! It was almost funny that my own T said my mom didn't really want me but grew to love me. My jaw hit the floor--no T had ever said it like that before!

Anyways I hope you find peace with your situation. I am not a mom just auntie so I only have an inkling of how hard it must be.

Jan 27, 2015, 10:59 PM

It has been one big day. Glad its nearly over, i pick up the girls from school soon. I have an exam tomorrow and an appt at the mood disorders clinic tomorrow, see my GP on Friday and my ex wants to sort out things social security wise with girls (really looking forward to that one, not) and hopefully vote out the current govt on Saturday. I'm glad I feel so exhausted this early in the week.

ThingWithFeathers · Jan 27, 2015, 11:53 PM

Mast, I have never read Kim Stanley Robinson, but have heard of Mars. Will check it out at the library!

catonyx · Jan 28, 2015, 01:31 AM

1.5 hours into my sleep and baby girl is ready to eat. I hope she surprises me and sleeps well tonight. I'm exhausted.

Jan 28, 2015, 03:47 AM

Hey C you need sleep. I'm still thinking that sleep training would be good, your baby girl needs you healthy not broken by lack of sleep - I know you said you can't sleep anyway, but your darling babe does seem to keeping you awake a lot? Hope you get some tonight.

granite1 · Jan 28, 2015, 03:51 AM

im up trying to solve the worlds problems and worrying about everything that has gone on in my life this week . I get this no sleep thing messing with how you are able to deal with life .

Jan 28, 2015, 04:07 AM

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Originally Posted by JustShakey

But romance is romanticising

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Yeah, that's my point

Romanticising is the opposite of true.

But, you know, I honestly know nothing about relationships or how they work. I only have my own skewed perspective, and I have no idea what works for other people. Whatever makes others happy is good for them.

Jan 28, 2015, 04:42 AM

Over the past week I have had small bouts of what feels like nettles on various parts of my body, but today it felt like someone shoved a whole nettle plant in the small of my back. OWWW! Seeing gp on Friday so see what she things. Better not be med related as I have found the perfect combination.

catonyx · Jan 28, 2015, 05:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Brown Owl

Hey C you need sleep. I'm still thinking that sleep training would be good, your baby girl needs you healthy not broken by lack of sleep - I know you said you can't sleep anyway, but your darling babe does seem to keeping you awake a lot? Hope you get some tonight.

I can't sleep train her. Besides, she's only been doing this for about 5 days. It's a new phase. My first daughter did the same thing. The only difference was we could stay in bed until 10 every day. I can't this time around as I have my toddler to get up with.

catonyx · Jan 28, 2015, 05:20 AM

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Originally Posted by granite1

im up trying to solve the worlds problems and worrying about everything that has gone on in my life this week . I get this no sleep thing messing with how you are able to deal with life .

Yeah lack of sleep makes things more difficult. I think I'm less rational when I'm tired. Oh well.

catonyx · Jan 28, 2015, 05:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Mastodon

Yeah, that's my point

Romanticising is the opposite of true.

But, you know, I honestly know nothing about relationships or how they work. I only have my own skewed perspective, and I have no idea what works for other people. Whatever makes others happy is good for them.

I have various ideas of how relationships work based on examining relationships of those I grew up around or those in my life now. I know what different relationships look like from an outsider's perspective, but i often wonder if it is actually smiles and rainbows as it appears. My relationship looks perfect to an outsider, as I've been told many times, yet we are just two ships passing in the night. Our communication is abysmal.

catonyx · Jan 28, 2015, 05:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Bipolarartist

Over the past week I have had small bouts of what feels like nettles on various parts of my body, but today it felt like someone shoved a whole nettle plant in the small of my back. OWWW! Seeing gp on Friday so see what she things. Better not be med related as I have found the perfect combination.

Yikes. That sounds awful. Hope it goes away soon.

NowhereUSA · Jan 28, 2015, 11:26 AM

Effing crap. I hate being me. I need a personality/brain transplant. /pityparty

StressedMess · Jan 28, 2015, 11:58 AM

If your brain still remembers how to study and manage time, I'll be glad to trade you! Mine remembers how to stay up all night, but not how to stay awake all the next day.

Besides, we couchies like your personality just fine lady!

JustShakey · Jan 28, 2015, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Mastodon

Yeah, that's my point

Romanticising is the opposite of true.

But, you know, I honestly know nothing about relationships or how they work. I only have my own skewed perspective, and I have no idea what works for other people. Whatever makes others happy is good for them.

The only thing I know for sure about relationships is that I'm terrified of them. Intimacy sounds lovely in theory, but as soon as it gets 'real' I run like a spooked deer. Argh! Anxious-avoidant attachment FTW!

JustShakey · Jan 28, 2015, 12:12 PM

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Originally Posted by NowhereUSA

Effing crap. I hate being me. I need a personality/brain transplant. /pityparty

:world's tiniest violin:

I think you're alright Nowhere. I'm pretty sure I'd like you IRL too.

JustShakey · Jan 28, 2015, 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Bipolarartist

Over the past week I have had small bouts of what feels like nettles on various parts of my body, but today it felt like someone shoved a whole nettle plant in the small of my back. OWWW! Seeing gp on Friday so see what she things. Better not be med related as I have found the perfect combination.

Owowow! I hate nettles!

Hope it's not meds, but it sounds awfully like it could be. Those are nervous system issues for sure

Hopefully just passing side effects?

NowhereUSA · Jan 28, 2015, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by JustShakey

:world's tiniest violin:

I think you're alright Nowhere. I'm pretty sure I'd like you IRL too.

People say they like me. The problem is I don't much like myself. Bah.

CantExplain · Jan 28, 2015, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by NowhereUSA

Effing crap. I hate being me. I need a personality/brain transplant. /pityparty

I can't help you with the transplants, but I'm up for the pity party.

catonyx · Jan 28, 2015, 03:19 PM

I made it through a difficult appointment this morning... In one piece... And mostly present. That's a huge improvement over the last appointment of that type.

And it's bellletstalk day in Canada. I've pretty much alluded to all of my social media contacts that I needed help and asked for it in a post. Thankfully, no one has touched it with a ten foot pole!

NowhereUSA · Jan 28, 2015, 03:20 PM

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Originally Posted by catonyx

I made it through a difficult appointment this morning... In one piece... And mostly present. That's a huge improvement over the last appointment of that type.

And it's bellletstalk day in Canada. I've pretty much alluded to all of my social media contacts that I needed help and asked for it in a post. Thankfully, no one has touched it with a ten foot pole!

What day? Not familiar with this.

Jan 28, 2015, 03:27 PM

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Originally Posted by JustShakey

The only thing I know for sure about relationships is that I'm terrified of them. Intimacy sounds lovely in theory, but as soon as it gets 'real' I run like a spooked deer. Argh! Anxious-avoidant attachment FTW!

Intimacy is not a necessary part of any relationship.

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