[Sigirl4evr]

I have been going to a TDR for the last 7 months. He said when I started seeing him I was depressed and had been for a while and if I came once a week he would be able to help me. Well I have done this and all he tells me is fear no evil, life is tuff, I'm doing good, and keep doing what m doing. I have been going to separation and now we have signed divorce papers. Yes times like these are hard going through this and yes I do hurt. But I have looked up relationship denial and this is everything I feel like I'm going through. I know this can lead to depression but I feel like if I had of known I was going through denial I would been able to work on this area before now. I think 7 months is a bit long and really feel the same. I have never been to a TDR before so I guess I am wanting advice from others that have been through something like this and does a TDR ever tell you what you should be doing or just let you figure it out. Because I go in every week asking questions and he always says no you don't have that. Please just give me some advice so I can try to see if I am moving forward or just staying in one spot. Thanks

[unaluna]

Whats a tdr?

[Sigirl4evr]

Counseling Dr.

[SnakeCharmer]

If you think you're in relationship denial, by all means talk to your TDR about it.

Relationship denial is not a mental health diagnosis. It's a pop psychology term used to talk about dating and relationships. It's sometimes considered part of codependency. It usually refers to someone who wants to be with a romantic partner so badly they ignore all the blazing red flags waving that say the relationship is not working or the partner is not a good match.

If that's happening to you in your divorce or with someone new, it could certainly lead to depressive feelings and it would be worth talking to your counseling doctor about.

Relationship denial is usually fairly obvious to everyone except the person who's experiencing it, so don't be surprised if your TDR already knows about the behaviors and feelings you're talking about. I wish you the best.

[Sigirl4evr]

Originally Posted by SnakeCharmer

If you think you're in relationship denial, by all means talk to your TDR about it.

Relationship denial is not a mental health diagnosis. It's a pop psychology term used to talk about dating and relationships. It's sometimes considered part of codependency. It usually refers to someone who wants to be with a romantic partner so badly they ignore all the blazing red flags waving that say the relationship is not working or the partner is not a good match.

If that's happening to you in your divorce or with someone new, it could certainly lead to depressive feelings and it would be worth talking to your counseling doctor about.

Relationship denial is usually fairly obvious to everyone except the person who's experiencing it, so don't be surprised if your TDR already knows about the behaviors and feelings you're talking about. I wish you the best.

Thank you, I go Monday and visit my TDR. I am going to talk to him about it. I have also read up on the codependency and I am going to ask him about this. I'm not seeing anyone right now just want to get all of this and find happiness with myself. If possible.