Crying

Does anyone else do this? I end up in tears every session with my therapist. Lately, it's like Pavlove's dog, I just start crying when I enter the room. I can't remember the last time I didn't cry during a session. Maybe when I first started. Do you do that? I'm hoping one day I'll stop, but I'm getting so used to expecting it that if I don't cry - will I be doing any work. What happens in sessions when there is no crying? (I'm such a silly baby.)

PS - Today, my therapist got teary eyed too. That's a first.

I don't cry. The closest I have come is a faltering voice and tears wellng up but then they stop. I have only been seeing this T for 6 months and for a while I kept wondering when I would cry. I have just started taking Lexapro and wonder if that is a factor. But, I wasnt taking it when I was at my lowest and I didn't cry then either. My T thinks I am not completely connected to him, maybe that has something to do with it. Lord knows, I have plenty to cry about. I think also that maybe I got so used to not crying at home (in front of my kids) that I lost the ability! Is that possible? or maybe I'm just a private kind of cryer!

I'm usually pretty private too. I hide my tears. And I'm not that connected to the therapist. But we just keep touching wounds. There are key words or thoughts that just start the tears falling. Now that I've been crying so much there, it's started to leak out in other places like church. I don't think anyone's noticed though.

Hey. I cry a little.

Usually I'm a mess when I cry. Tears and snot all over. Have to blow my nose a great deal and make one hell of a racket.

But I don't do that with him. I cry, but it is different. No sobs. No snot. Just wet eyes. I'm not sure why its different or what it signifies.

Last time was a bit different. More hysterica me, I guess.

One of the hardest things for me is to be in touch with and kind of expressing how I'm feeling in the moment without trying to cling to or push away. How quickly my mood changes frightens me. And I worry its either ununderstandable or too transparent. Like you can read my thoughts and feelings and everything right there from my face.

I imagine this will just be for a time rather than forever. But yeah, sometimes people need to cry.

One of my most memorable sessions...many years ago... I do not recall saying anything... I just cried the whole session. Snot and all.

The snot is not as prevalent these days but there are still tears... not every session but at many.

It took forever for me to be anything but "happy" in session. I didn't trust anyone with my emotions, it's still hard for me express any negative emotions (anger and sadnes). I think it's good that you trust your therapist enough to do that - even if its just a little bit.

I consider the sessions where I can actually cry to be the good "hard" ones. Otherwise I hide behind my mask and pretend nothing bothers me. *sigh*

I've never cried in therapy. I only ever even felt like it a little once. But I haven't really been close. I almost never cry. I wish I did. I feel very close to my therapist, but I just can't express anything like that. I remember once I felt jealous when he said that some of his clients come in and cry. I'm jealous of people who can show emotion like that. I wish I could.

Sidony

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I've never cried in therapy. I'm jealous of people who can show emotion like that. I wish I could.

Sidony

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Me too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am one heck of a cry baby. I remember my first counselor got me started on childhood and I balled for most of the session. I was so humiliated to cry in front of this stranger in a business suit. He kept saying it was okey the cry and I kept calling myself a whimp, cry baby and other names for crying.
My new T had a few sessions of no tears. But, I now cry some in a lot of our sessions. I tend to cry when she hits the spot or feeds a psychological need of mine. Lately, she has been talking some about fear of abandonment and my ability to become an addiction counselor. I love to hear her tell me that she isn't planning on going anywhere for a while.
As for losing the ability to cry, yep you can do that. I got my emotions all stuffed up in between counselors and couldn't cry if my life depended on it until I released what I was refusing to think about.
It is okey to cry. It just means that we have things that we need to get out and express.

"It's okey to feel what you feel. Feelings are not right or wrong. They just are. There is no one who can tell you what you should feel. It's good and it's necessary to talk about feelings." Home Coming by John Bradshaw

I cried all the time with my first counselor. I was just falling apart in RL and when I would get to her office, the tears would just flow. WinterRose, after a while, maybe it was similar to what you describe, a Pavlovian response.

With my current T, I don't cry much. I cried briefly at our first session and sobbed when we did EMDR the first time. But since then, months ago, I haven't cried much. I often feel so good when I am with him, that I can't cry. Plus I have so much bottled up inside and keep that hurt on a tight leash. I'm keeping it there so I can function in RL. I wish I could let it loose with T, but I don't seem to be able to. He seems amazed sometimes I can recount these really hurtful situations to him and appear unmoved. In some ways, I am feeling kind of numb. Don't know how to change that.

I have never cried in front of my T. He talks about this with me every week because it is seriously limiting the things that I can talk about with him because of my refusal to cry. I avoid the depth of many issues because I don't want to cry in front of him. Or I detach myself from the thing that I am talking about so it seems like it happened to someone else. I talk about myself like a case study. I feel exposed enough already. I don't really feel like sitting there with snot and mascara covering my face while he just watches. No f***ing way.

One time I really let go with my old pdoc in NY. It was when I was hospitalized. I was seeing him in his office at the hospital. I was absolutely, completely, 100 percent hysterical. Crying, wailing, tissues and snot everywhere. And what was he doing? Nothing really. A little paperwork here and there. A**hole.