Object constancy?

Does anyone find object constancy to be an issue within their therapy?
I have a really hard time believing that my therapist cares and will remember me when I leave my sessions. My connection with T seems to just disappear. I am constantly seeking reassurance in between session. It's like T doesn't exsist anymore

Are you sure this is object constancy issue? Have you discussed this with your T to hear what their view of it is?

Yes I use to experience that too.

Yup, most definetly. But, as much as I hate to admit it, talking about it with T has helped a lot. She's very understanding and supportive, which has helped lessen the intensity, usually! For me, texting in between sessions has been helpful.
I still go thru times when it's still hard, and I try and fight it, but I try and remember to talk to her about it again, stay in contact more, and somehow it helps.

Big time! Huge problem for me. Thank goodness he knows it's very serious and he allows constant contact. It took me a long time to realize what this was all about. He is away now, going on three frigging months; damn near died when he told me he was leaving. Not kidding. We've continued sessions through other means; not the same at all...better than nothing. He will return next week and I will restrain myself from jumping into his arms; he may allow the forbidden hug; Gosh, I hope so! He told me he imagined I would jump into his chair with him and we laughed. The funny thing about this whole upset was how he pulled out every stop to make me know he "is" still here. He will be back. He gave me a treasured object from his office to keep until he returns. And guess what, I survived these months. I did it. I grew strong and more secure. A lot of back and forth. I cried every day for several weeks, thinking he really is never coming back and he forgot about me. It was horrible. I'm still not where I want to be with this issue, but it is improving. We talked about how I never want him to leave me...ever, and see it's all from a child's perspective. We are open about it all and getting through it together. Damn, I love him!

big problem for me too,& especially several younger alters. T has given us some things to help us remember her when we are apart, like a doll and a handmade blanket and stuffies, and we have lots of pictures of us together, which helps.

Is it that you don't think about therapy between appointments? YOu say the connection fades, are you able to find it again in session? I guess I'm just wondering if it's a healthy "view" of therapy as simply something to attend once a week (or however often you attend), or it's something else. There's nothing wrong with not obsessing about T between sessions (it's actually probablly better that way), but if you are losing connection and then struggling to get comfortable with your T all over again, it might be good to talk about that.
I know when I have trouble finding and maintaining connection with new T's, I try towork out with them how best to maintain the connection between session...

I use to experience that with my thera and others in my life. Therapy fixed that for me.

It seems to be something lots of people experience. My therapist almost expects it and offers to make recordings on people's phones of his voice both as a relaxation tape and just for soothing and maintain a sense of constancy.

It also may not be something that needs to be viewed negatively or judged because it indicates that you seem to want and are trying to enter into the relationship and something about that is activating something like doubt or anxiety or fear.

You didn't say how long you have been with this therapist or if you have done therapy before, but my guess is that this is not a lasting issue. That it could get resolved or come and go with some patience and reassurance.

I have been seeing the woman for about 5 years and I don't remember what she looks like once I leave. I am surprised each week that her office is not as dark as it is when I think of it. I have no belief she remembers me from appt to appt. A belief she reinforces by her failure to remember anything from week to week. I don't find it bad for me, it is odder for me to read about people who do it differently.