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Old Mar 17, 2015, 03:36 PM
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My T session was excruciating, but ended up being a good thing. It was 48 minutes of intense discomfort and some tears, followed by him FINALLY saying something that made a light bulb go off in my head, so I had two minutes of, HEY, THAT MAKES SENSE! Why didn't you say THAT in the first place? Jesus. It only took us ten times of having the same discussion over and ****ing over before he finally phrased things in a way that made sense to me. Non-attorneys / non-linguists and their lack of precision in language. hmph.
Oh wow...I was wondering if this kind of thing ever happened to anyone else! I have had a similar issue with one of my Ts, almost exactly as you have described. It's gotten better recently, but on some days it would seem like I just kept saying, "But what does that mean??" Argh!!
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Old Mar 17, 2015, 03:38 PM
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I know - it is awful. The second one I see is much more aware of this than the first. The first handles language like someone doing surgery with a blunt chainsaw.
Yeah, I think it's to his credit that he hung in there and kept having the discussion with me, trying to figure out how to communicate what he was trying to say. He admitted it was frustrating to him to be unable to get me to see what he was trying to say. He said that he was not saying what I was hearing him say, and I kept explaining that what I was hearing was IN FACT what he was saying.

He also admitted that he is frustrated by how much smarter I am than he is, and that he knows he is not explaining correctly and that I will not just take his word for something the way other clients will. I am apparently more prone to challenging him than most of his clients are. I do not think I ever challenge him unnecessarily, or just for the sake of being difficult. But I do feel like he needs to back up what he says and not just expect me to believe him just because he says so. I find it somewhat disturbing that people are just taking his word for stuff. Not that I don't think he is brilliant at what he does (he is), but that still doesn't mean he should get by without explaining the basis for his statements.
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Old Mar 17, 2015, 03:49 PM
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Yes - that is like what the second one says to me. I find it very disturbing to think people just take a therapist's word for something. Ack.
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Old Mar 17, 2015, 03:49 PM
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My elderly horse has been really ill. He broke his jaw and then got an infection. Today as I was picking him up from his third stay at the vet's, I realized that I have spent enough money on him in the last two weeks to have gone out and bought a really nice, young, broke horse. And I still owe the vet more money. I haven't ridden this horse in more than ten years, but once the vet said his current problems were fixable, and that I could make payments, it didn't really occur to me not to get the treatment. I was kind of cringing at the thought of telling H about it though. D reassured me this afternoon that H was willing to try surgery on a 36 year old mare we used to have, so doing this for my old guy was going to be totally okay with H. I realized that was true and just had to smile. I so incredibly glad H and I were able to work things out. He really is a good friend as well as a spouse.
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Old Mar 17, 2015, 03:53 PM
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Yes - that is like what the second one says to me. I find it very disturbing to think people just take a therapist's word for something. Ack.
Right. What is up with that? Why would anyone do that? If he cannot explain it, why would I trust what he has to say? Occasionally, I let him get away with a request that I just try something even if he cannot explain it. I might go along with that request if it is something that does not seem like it will be harmful to me. Not often though.
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Old Mar 17, 2015, 04:16 PM
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You are more indulgent with him than I am with the ones I see.

I think we do them a good turn with our standards.
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Old Mar 17, 2015, 04:19 PM
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still in lots of pain .went to clinic . very hard to do because I hate the doc and usually I cant see my NP in clinic. anyway x rays and so on anr showing all ok and need to give it two weeks before they deal with muscle damage . but got prescription naproxen (Motrin) for pain .I hope it works . im stressed enough to go to T I don't want to be in horrible pain.
So glad you didnt break anything!!! Just put a kitty wherever you feel pain
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Old Mar 17, 2015, 05:36 PM
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Hello couch. Back at doc today for suture removal. I'm right sick of that place!

Still feel "under the weather," translation "lower than a snakes belly." DD2 is still feverish but she is supposed to go back to school tomorrow. And if I don't go back to work I will lose my tenuous grasp on what's left of my sanity!

Hope Granite is resting and feeling better, hope all you other couchies had a great day!
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Old Mar 17, 2015, 06:03 PM
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Depression. Gah. How have I been living in this house?!

Just keep cleaning, just keep cleaning, just keep cleaning...

Where did my over organized and always meticulously clean part of my personality go!?
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Old Mar 17, 2015, 09:24 PM
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Oh for the love. Hubby just set a reminder for that awful, vapid show "Billy & Billie" again. wtf is wrong with that man?! I may have to volunteer to watch sports or something drastic like that.
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Old Mar 17, 2015, 09:58 PM
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Art, are there any quilting or stamping shows you could force him to sit through?Couch 90 - nine tee - not nine teen.

WHY can't I sleep? Got up decent early today, no naps all day, still feel like crap. I'm blaming the codeine. Prescribe something to help me sleep, I'll be awake until it wears off. SMH. . .
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Old Mar 17, 2015, 10:35 PM
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*note to self: watching # dear me vids on YouTube while high on codeine is hazardous to your health. Now turn it off and go to sleep!!
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Old Mar 17, 2015, 10:55 PM
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Ok nobody wants to play? Because you are all ASLEEP or working. Goodnight couch!
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Old Mar 18, 2015, 12:37 AM
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Old Mar 18, 2015, 01:51 AM
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It's 1 a.m and I can't fall asleep again! The lens fell out of my eyeglasses and we couldn't find the screw. I hope my spare glasses are good enough to drive to the optometrist. That's one problem.

Problem two is I have a breast cyst that was aspirated but, for the second time, it's red and it hurts. I think I'll have to see a surgeon. My dermatologist won't remove it. I'll have to call and ask her what to do. She gave me a cream last time. I'm not worried about cancer, but it's annoying.

Problem three: Looked at T's FB page and feeling idk what: jealous I guess. Like I don't know her! Is it common to have close up profile pictures on FB? I'm not sure why it upsets me.

I know these aren't major issues but I am unsettled!!!
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Old Mar 18, 2015, 03:23 AM
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I was going to virtually sing a popular lullaby but decided it would be too triggering and give you nightmares. I hope it doesn't do that to me. What are mothers who sing that thinking of? I don't wanna know. No wonder so many people need therapy.

Just...sweet dreams.
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Old Mar 18, 2015, 03:30 AM
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Feeding. I was pretty busy yesterday. Trying to get some things organized and in motion. Or maybe distracting. Who knows... I'm still tired from Monday's flying to another province and back for work. Zzzz.
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Old Mar 18, 2015, 06:26 AM
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Old Mar 18, 2015, 06:38 AM
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I was going to virtually sing a popular lullaby but decided it would be too triggering and give you nightmares. I hope it doesn't do that to me. What are mothers who sing that thinking of? I don't wanna know. No wonder so many people need therapy.

Just...sweet dreams.

Aww thanks! Yeah I learned that song when I was small and I always wanted to ask mama, are you forcing nightmares on us?Couch 90 - nine tee - not nine teen.

Finally fell asleep after 2, woke up with the alarm, we are both still sick fever and other unmentionable things you can't take to school. Yippee. . .

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Old Mar 18, 2015, 07:05 AM
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Aww thanks! Yeah I learned that song when I was small and I always wanted to ask mama, are you forcing nightmares on us?Couch 90 - nine tee - not nine teen.

Finally fell asleep after 2, woke up with the alarm, we are both still sick fever and other unmentionable things you can't take to school. Yippee. . .

See you all later!
Which lullaby is this? (No need to post lyrics or anything if it is triggering, just the title so I can find it.)
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Old Mar 18, 2015, 07:09 AM
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Wonder if that trigger thing worked? I'm on mobile.
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Old Mar 18, 2015, 07:11 AM
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Oh, ok. I knew that one. I guess I can see how it could be scary.
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Sorry I posted before I saw your edit.
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