[InRealLife45]

As I look up all these cases of Psychologist and LMFT wrongdoing, I can't help but imagine my T's name heading one of these court documents. Knowing that I could do this to her, I could publicly shame her.

She's been "trying" to be distant and professional with me now (aside from cursing/yelling at me), but it doesn't negate or erase the years on inappropriate contact or behavior, or what was the equivalent of emotional abandonment.

The sad part is her insistence that she's a really good therapist. I guess we are watching different movies.

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I could still file charges against her.

I think I am disturbing myself with the repeated thought of how easily I could do this. I looked up her name, saw how clean her record is, and thought "I could add a violation here." It would only be probation, but it would be a ding on her record.

I feel kind of evil thinking about it. But still. I could do it. She would probably lie, but I have recordings she allowed to be made. So no contest.

Wish I wasn't so evil thinking about the power I have to hurt her.

[Burned123]

You're not being evil. We all tend to put our T's on a pedestal and think they can do no wrong. I believe, as you can tell from my other posts, that if a T does something that violates their oath or creed that they've taken, they should be held accountable. Truthfully, I never would have reported my T if she would have ended therapy appropriately and did not terminate me via a letter with no further contact, but there is a reason why there are disciplinary boards. Also, what makes you think that your T would only get probation? Don't they have different degrees of discipline where you live....such as fines and revocation of license?

[InRealLife45]

Based on my review of similar cases yesterday I think she would have her license revoked, stayed and put on probation for three years. So end result is probation. Your T will likely get the same thing. They can still practice, but their disciplinary status will read: "license revoked, stayed, _ years probation."

And of course they have to get a supervisor, be in therapy, get 10 hours of continuing education, and pay the court all the fees they spent, in the ballpark of 10 grand.

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[Burned123]

I would be fine if she had her license revoked, but stayed. The bottom line is it is a disciplinary action and would show up if someone tried to research her. I would feel validated. I'm somewhat afraid that they won't do anything. Although, I don't know how that would be possible considering all that I have on her.

[InRealLife45]

Originally Posted by Burned123

I would be fine if she had her license revoked, but stayed. The bottom line is it is a disciplinary action and would show up if someone tried to research her. I would feel validated. I'm somewhat afraid that they won't do anything. Although, I don't know how that would be possible considering all that I have on her.

Do you have proof? Like e-mails or anything? Phone records?

Or is it your word against hers?

Did you ever see your chart? Do you know how good her notes were? Did she document after every session? A lot of T's get in trouble bc their notes are too sparse to prove or disprove anything. I know my T would be in hot water bc she barely writes anything. She notates once every ten weeks, and thats only with her request to insurance for more sessions. When I asked her to take notes about EACH SESSION she actually laughed at me and flat out said no, she doesn't have time for that. So if I were to report her, that practice would seriously bite her in the ***. They do NOT like insufficient records. On the other hand, its done to protect clients in the event of subpoena- you cant give them what you never wrote. So I guess its a double edged sword.

[Burned123]

Originally Posted by InRealLife45

Do you have proof? Like e-mails or anything? Phone records?

Or is it your word against hers?

Did you ever see your chart? Do you know how good her notes were? Did she document after every session? A lot of T's get in trouble bc their notes are too sparse to prove or disprove anything. I know my T would be in hot water bc she barely writes anything. She notates once every ten weeks, and thats only with her request to insurance for more sessions. When I asked her to take notes about EACH SESSION she actually laughed at me and flat out said no, she doesn't have time for that. So if I were to report her, that practice would seriously bite her in the ***. They do NOT like insufficient records. On the other hand, its done to protect clients in the event of subpoena- you cant give them what you never wrote. So I guess its a double edged sword.

Yes. I did obtain a copy of my entire record. You are so right about it being sparse and not saying much. Twenty of the sessions were not document, which will bite her in the ***.

IRL I really urge you to quit this T. (Usually on this board when I see people advising others what to do like this I think it is too strong advice.). You have one life to live, and I think that sticking with a T who you don't respect may be destructive long term. Perhaps it seems impossible to quit - I remember you saying before how you quit and then changed your mind, you felt a huge sense of loss? I know first hand that quitting can be hard. I'd advise you to make a support plan. I've found acupuncture helpful, not just the treatment, but the contact with a caring person who seems far less judgemental than my T was, (I actually feels she knows and respects me better than my T ever did, and that is just in three sessions). Maybe reflexology, this can really help emotions and sleep too, and you would have contact with a caring professional? And find a new T who will have the skills and personality to hold your emotions. I think you said once that you think the way your therapy is is a pattern and perhaps you think it will be repeated with another therapist? But I would counter this by saying you are older, wiser, more self aware and you need to believe in yourself. You do believe in yourself - you have started studying, now take the next step and move onto a new phase in your life by leaving this T. Your post in this thread had hints of bitterness towards your T, this is a destructive emotion to feel, I can't see that any good long term good will come from this.

I am writing this to you with the best of intentions, I hope my words are helpful, it's hard to know sometimes when you write your opinions to strangers?