Uncle died and missing T appt. (trigger)

I certainly hope this does not evoke any negative feelings for any of you. Please don't read this if it will.

I just found out my uncle died last night. I was so close to him and his son, my cousin and I are six months apart in age. We practically grew up as brother/sister. I'm going to do a reading for them.

So, I'll be flying out of town to Pa. for a few days. That means, I'll be missing my T appt. on Tuesday.

I'm a mess right now because I have so much I desperately need to say to T before I leave. I'm one of those who thinks "what if the plane crashes and I never got to apologize to him or at least discuss my real reasoning for our conversation the other day"...I lost a friend on 9/11 so that is what is behind this faulty thinking.

But I'm afraid to call and ask to see him tomorrow. First, they may not have any time available, second we have the issue of not coming in 2x per week because of insurance issues and third, he thinks I need to feel the pain between sessions of needing to call him or write letters and have him call me back.

Now what do I do??

This could be seen as a crisis situation by the insurance company if reported that your beloved unc died. That could certainly be a justified visit.

So sorry about your uncle.

But then again... if he feels you need to feel the pain... well if the pain is not about your uncle.. that could get in the way of therapeutic progress. I am sorry. I do not know the answers but think if you are missing next week... why not go this week. Seems worthwhile to me.

I think this would be a different situation--you just had somehting major happen in your life. If anything warrents an extra session--this does. Just my thoughts.

I'm so sorry about your uncle. ((((hugs))))

almedafan, I agree, if you need your T's support at this time, please call him. A death in the family is a special, crisis situation. Perhaps he can help you with your loss and the shock.

Please don't stress about the insurance. Maybe just not deal with insurance on this one extra session, just pay for it out of pocket since it sounds so very important to you. If you pay out of pocket for a session, it doesn't need to get reported to your insurance so they would never even know you had 2 sessions this week.

You all make great points. My real upset feeling is this need to talk to him about the last session and my feelings from it.

I certainly can offer to pay out of pocket. If they even have a spot open tomorrow. I can try and ask....why not?

Thanks!

I am so sorry for your loss.

Please call T. This situation warrants a visit. He will understand. There is a limit as to how much pain you should be feeling.

I will be thinking of you here in PA.

So sorry (((Almeda))) !!!

Yes definitely call your therapist. If you can pay for one session out-of-pocket, just ask for a separate invoice for that visit -- then you can pay it without ever telling the insurance company about it at all and they won't bother you.

I'm sure your therapist didn't intend for you not to call if you had a family crisis. I'm so sorry to hear about your uncle.

Sidony

I'm sorry to hear about your uncle.

I agree with everyone. Call your T. Even if he can't see you, ask for him to call you back.

Sometimes even ten minutes will help.

I think it's wonderful that you are doing a reading for your uncle.

Thanks everyone. I'll be calling as soon as my annoying father (kidding) gets the funeral date. He's horrible at getting details and it is his sister's husband.

He has seen her every day for the last two months!!