How do you tell if your T cares for you

stopdog · Apr 13, 2015, 01:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Ad Intra

Not like love or being your bff, but they care about you and your life.

What difference would it make one way or the other? Is there a reason you want the therapist to do so?

Apr 13, 2015, 04:25 PM

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Originally Posted by tinyrabbit

I think the ability to experience your T caring can often be disrupted by feelings from other relationships that you transfer in. My T said that if I didn't have all this stuff to deal with I would be able to simply see him as someone who cares about me. The fact I struggle to do this is to do with other relationships, not him.

I too was wondering, similarly to what Tiny says, if people who felt that their parental figures didn't care, may find this is an issue with their T, but people who felt that their parents did care ( perhaps despite what they did or did not do as parents), don't doubt their T to be caring?

Personally I didn't doubt that my T1 cared, though I think she was completely misguided as a T. I've had three sessions with T2, I also see her as caring.

Apr 13, 2015, 05:35 PM

She tells me.
She goes above and beyond to do whatever she is able to for me.
She came to my house a few times to visit.
She invited me to come visit her when she was out of town, and we had a great time together.
The way she talks.
She hugs me/ holds my hand whenever we manage to get together.

Apr 14, 2015, 01:20 AM

I don't have to worry about that. I already know my T doesn't care a hoot. He thinks nothing of breaching my confidentiality and telling everyone in town my whole life story. Would you like his name?

ThingWithFeathers · Apr 14, 2015, 04:42 AM

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Originally Posted by puzzle_bug1987

I thought this was true of my ex-therapist up until the day he terminated me abruptly with no warning and no hope.

I have no trust in any therapist. It's safer that way.

I'm very sorry that happened to you. I sincerely hope my t will not do the same. That would be very damaging.

Apr 14, 2015, 05:43 AM

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Originally Posted by mssofty

I don't have to worry about that. I already know my T doesn't care a hoot. He thinks nothing of breaching my confidentiality and telling everyone in town my whole life story. Would you like his name?

i'm so sorry that happened to you

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