[Splish Splash]

Hello,
I need some advice. Most of us have some issues which are hard to tackle. Finally, it happens and you agree to work through such a topic. I'm in such a situation - I know I need to discuss sth in therapy (my therapist presses me - gently, but she presses), I resist. Do you have any advice how to start? I know I need to prepare mentally and I need to prepare what I want to say. However, it scares me so much that I can hardly think even of it.

[wa(o)rrior]

Hi Friend

This may have been suggested so many times earlier. Put it in a piece of paper and give it to the therapist to read. because when you write it down you can take your own time and be as expressive as possible. be well!

[Splish Splash]

Heh...yeah, but first I need to write it down.:-) As I wrote, I know that preparing (=writing down) should help. However, even this part is difficult. Moreover, I'm not going to give a piece of paper to my therapist. It's not my way, I want to talk about it.

[wa(o)rrior]

Don't worry! your therapist will eventually breach the barriers and make you talk. they just need sometime to gain your trust. and believe me when you unburden yourself, the relief is so great that you will feel like floating.

[Splish Splash]

Thanks wa(o)rrior, but it's not with this topic. I feel just huge shame. It's nothing serious actually. I have eating problems and the hard topis is how much I eat, what I eat etc. It sounds banal, but for me it's a problem. Moreover, I could talk to another person about it quite easiy, but not to her (I'm still scared of her bit). I'm too ashamed. She knows and she pressed me to overcome it.

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

Shame and guilt have subtle and powerful ways of making us feel bad. And yet they are just feelings, and you can have control over your feelings. Therapy can help you gain control. I hope you can be brave and go for it.

[LesFleursDuMal]

I feel just huge shame. It's nothing serious actually. I have eating problems and the hard topis is how much I eat, what I eat etc. It sounds banal, but for me it's a problem.

I couldn't help but react to that. Eating problems ARE serious, and if you feel ashamed, if it's hard for you, if you see it as a problem, it's certainly not banal.
Writing can be a good idea as people have said. Depends on what you feel able to do. I always thought I would only be able to write about difficult subject (csa) and never talk about them. But then one day I felt like it was too much, I couldn't hold back anymore and I talked. It really made me feel better, much better than if I had written. So that's what I would personnaly encourage you to do.

[Splish Splash]

Originally Posted by LesFleursDuMal

I couldn't help but react to that. Eating problems ARE serious, and if you feel ashamed, if it's hard for you, if you see it as a problem, it's certainly not banal.
Writing can be a good idea as people have said. Depends on what you feel able to do. I always thought I would only be able to write about difficult subject (csa) and never talk about them. But then one day I felt like it was too much, I couldn't hold back anymore and I talked. It really made me feel better, much better than if I had written. So that's what I would personnaly encourage you to do.

Thank you for your replies. Yes, I'm going to write that down before I meet my therapist, that's for sure. I need to prepare. I just thought maybe you could tell me what helped in your case.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I have issues with eating: binge eating and emotionally eating. I hate people even watching me eat, so I really hate talking about it. So I can relate.

I have not gone into detail about my eating with any T, but my T does know. I just verbally told her I struggle with binge and emotional eating. That itself was difficult.

Have you at least started there? Telling your T the label of your eating problems. If not, that's where I would start. If you have already, maybe choose either how you eat or what you eat and try to go into detail about that. Or, since your T nudges you to open up, maybe ask her to help you to open up about these things. Maybe she can start the discussion?