Do you agree with my T about my brother?

You're right, I'm not familiar with your other experiences. I just recognized some of the feelings you described here as common among people who are ace, and wanted to mention it as a possibility.

If you experience sexual attraction then no, you're not ace, but yes, aces can masturbate if they want. Some do, some don't.

But I don't mean to derail the thread, so I'll just add that I so very much wish you the best in working toward finding what resolution you may seek. Lots of hugs to you.

Funny, I'd say it the greatest thing about the past.