T noticing things you do/bring in therapy

Does your T ever notice things you bring in to your session with you (ex: coffee, key rings, or maybe ask you about a clothing item? Mine will sometimes She'll ask me things like, "what does your shirt say?" or about what a particular shirt is from, it has made me feel noticed in one of those nice ways/complimentary She also has taken note that I've come in with dunkin donuts coffee here and there. I think its interesting because its not solely about "tracking" you, but just a general human curiosity on their part.

I don't bring anything in except me and my cell phone and keys. She offers coffee, water or tea, but I don't take it. I try to bring my own Kleenex if needed too...lol....

She says something if my hair is different. That's pretty much it. I had it straightened one day and she said she liked it that way...and recently I came in with wet hair after a shower and as it dries, it gets quite curly. She told me she used to spend a lot of money to have hair like I did that day.

My new one always notices the nail polish on my toes. I have really light turquoise now and she said that she went for a pedicure on the weekend and almost got that color but didn't think she could pull it off -- it's funny because she's super pretty and fashionable, and I'm sloppy and dumpy and she could pull it off better than me any day.

I wore a suit in once that the woman commented on because I normally dress in jeans or khakis - I just had not had time to change that day when coming from court. I don't usually carry anything in - I tried using silly putty a couple of times to help with anxiety and I think she said something. I did not like the suit comments and have never done it again - and now I carry a set of my regular clothes in the car so I could change in the car if it happens. I don't find their curiosity to be so innocent or so indicative of humanity on their part. If it is just general curiosity due to their being human - they need to keep it to themselves - I don't want their humanity - I pay them to keep it out of the appointment.

There isn't anything about me that she doesn't notice when I walk in. The more distressed I am the more attention she pays me. Clothes, drink, the way I sit, my voice, my hair, shoes, hands, etc. Notices, notes, asks, and comments if needed. Very attentive.

he always comments on my purses and my outfits in a cute dad sort of way. he's very observant. I like it. it makes me feel seen.

She also notices if i brush my hair or try to look a bit less depressed and like I just crawled out of a hole.

I walked into my pdoc the other day wearing makeup and for the first time I saw shock on his face! I love that the ONE thing I did to shock him was look presentable! I've gone months without even brushing my hair.

If I am really dressed up from work and will say a something. There are a couple of colors I were fraudulently that she thinks I look good in. I'd I wear one of those child's colors she will comment on how good I look in those colors. I always bring a dunkin donuts color but I commented in the past that I bring it as a stress reliever. I always drink coffee when I am stressed plus it gives some to play with or focus on of needed.

Interesting... my T just told me last week I try so hard to be invisible...lol. I found that to be an interesting comment I really never thought about before. Hey, she's right!

never. he may notice but doesnt say anything.
i think i will feel very self conscious if he started commenting on my dressing or accessories.

Ex T would comment on the rare couple of occasions I wore a dress.

Usually I come from work and am thus in long sleeved button-down shirts.

I used to wear only dark colours so ex T commented when I wore brighter colours.

Current T hasn't seen me wear dresses yet.

My T frequently compliments my clothes, hair, jewelry, appearance, etc. She will also usually comment if I'm more dressed up because I'm coming from work or if I'm in workout clothes because I'm coming from the gym. She also commented when I started weight lifting and got really fit. I don't really bring anything into session with me-- but if I did, I'm sure she would notice (well, I suppose she did notice when I brought my dog!)

I also comment frequently on T's clothes, hair, office decor, etc. I suppose we're both fairly observant and complimentary.

A sign of a very good T. Not just there for the money but caring and noticing.

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She probably do notice things, but doesn't comment on it. But I usually look pretty much the same. She has said a few times that I looked better, shinier or something. But that never matched how I felt. I guess I've become pretty good in looking better than that I feel.
I don't bring much to therapy. Just a bag, but she can't see what's in it.
Pdoc hasn't commented on anything. Maybe because he's a man and doesn't want to scare me or because of boundaries.

My T rarely says anything, but I'm fairly sure he does. I remember once telling him about a dream he was in where we were sat on the floor cuddled up, and I spent the whole dream to embarrassed to make eye contact so only looked at his feet. He said "but when I look down, I see two pairs of feet". This made me feel noticed (but also quite self conscious).

My t notices things and comments on anything out of place. I normally take a bag with me, and she has commented on that: either if it seems more full than usual, or if it doesn't show on rare occasions. She comments on my coffee (well, lack of, if that happens). I tend to think of it as gauging how things are going though, not purely human curiosity...

She generally shows an interest in me. But apart from phone and keys, I only bring myself.

I don't bring coffee or any drink in to session. My therapist notices if I have a new purse or stuff. He usually compliments me on my outfit, which I like.

I wouldn't like my T to comment on my clothes, bag or appearance (unless it was related to my emotional state). I think it is irrelevant.

But, is irrelevant?
I remember one of my abusers was in the media. I wore black to T. T pointed this out. Asked if I was trying to become invisible because of what is read?

my therapist brings me coffee and we put our makeup on together on my request.

I am the same. My clothing and appearance are irrelevant and if T were to comment on it, I'd feel that he was doing it by rote because it is something Ts are supposed to do, or something. Other people may feel seen and validated by such comments but I only feel invalidated and worthless - so, yet again, I feel very lucky in finding this T

It's funny, when I wore makeup to my pdoc that day, he said it's something they all are trained to notice because in terms of deel depression, bothering to put on eye makeup is a sign that you haven't been crying as much (I have big problems with crying constantly). I also rarely have the energy or care to take care of myself properly (I struggle a lot with neglecting myself and went months without even brushing my hair, just combing it with my fingers in the shower), so noticing that I painted my toenails or wore something half decent actually seems quite relevant.

I never wear make up. Ever. I think my mother tried to make me when I was in high school a few times, but other than that I have not. If a therapist tried to base my state on their belief women wear make up when they feel better so no make up was relevent, they would be completely misreading me.

Or think you were psychotic?

I think it was mainly the idea that if I bothered to put it on it meant I could control the weepiness for long enough to make it worthwhile. But who knows.