[Yearning0723]

I felt a little bit disingenuous, even though I wasn't exactly "dishonest" with her, but mostly I just said I felt like I needed some space from therapy for a bit and to process things with former T and work through that relationship before starting a new one, and maybe I'm at my saturation point with therapy right now. She said to go with my gut and she thinks that's a good plan for me, but her door is open if I want to come back. Easy as that. I felt a bit bad about it, but I think it was the right thing for me. And she was really supportive of my decision...so maybe this will be a good thing and I will have some space to resolve stuff and finish off well with old T before rushing into a new therapeutic relationship, whether with this T or someone else. Maybe I can just focus on right now and whatever happens in the future will happen when it happens...

[Creative ToFu]

Great job! You went with what you were feeling and communicated it with her without burning future bridges you still may want with her and it gives you an option to T shop if you want or just take a break from therapy after you end it with the other therapist. You handled it very well.

Originally Posted by Yearning0723

I felt a little bit disingenuous, even though I wasn't exactly "dishonest" with her, but mostly I just said I felt like I needed some space from therapy for a bit and to process things with former T and work through that relationship before starting a new one, and maybe I'm at my saturation point with therapy right now. She said to go with my gut and she thinks that's a good plan for me, but her door is open if I want to come back. Easy as that. I felt a bit bad about it, but I think it was the right thing for me. And she was really supportive of my decision...so maybe this will be a good thing and I will have some space to resolve stuff and finish off well with old T before rushing into a new therapeutic relationship, whether with this T or someone else. Maybe I can just focus on right now and whatever happens in the future will happen when it happens...

[FranzJosef]

I'm glad she said explicitly that the door is always open to coming back. That can be difficult to believe sometimes.

[Restin]

It's such a mystery to me how therapists can seem to feel deeply, yet it's like putting clothes on and off for them. Or like psychodrama, where everyone in the play feels so sincerely emotional but when the time is over, just put the playbook on the shelf and forget it. My T and I are in deep therapy...it's deep for her, too... but I'm sure she could just drop it like another old hat. I just don't understand how they can do that.

[musinglizzy]

Originally Posted by Yearning0723

I felt a little bit disingenuous, even though I wasn't exactly "dishonest" with her, but mostly I just said I felt like I needed some space from therapy for a bit and to process things with former T and work through that relationship before starting a new one, and maybe I'm at my saturation point with therapy right now. She said to go with my gut and she thinks that's a good plan for me, but her door is open if I want to come back. Easy as that. I felt a bit bad about it, but I think it was the right thing for me. And she was really supportive of my decision...so maybe this will be a good thing and I will have some space to resolve stuff and finish off well with old T before rushing into a new therapeutic relationship, whether with this T or someone else. Maybe I can just focus on right now and whatever happens in the future will happen when it happens...

You are so brave! I've thought what you said, but never acted on it. How long did you see this T? Like others said, it's wonderful that she told you her door is open. I'm rather attached to my T, but even though she has reassured me otherwise, I'm afraid to leave or take a break, because I'm afraid she'd not take me back. I am complicated!! And if I were her, I'd be taking off towards the hills!