The "Therapeutic Relationship"

ML: I do my best to stop defining myself with these psych labels. They don't help; they only make me feel broken. Every person I know seeks and needs caring, affection, understanding and a pathway out of despair. So when someone comes along who promises these things, the pull can be powerful and intoxicating.

I heavily blamed myself for my therapists' poor treatment and management. I now don't believe the client's characteristics and vulnerabilities should be blamed when a treatment hurts the client. Smart, together people get lured in by stuff.

I could be wrong, but I understood missbella's comment to be about the way therapists (as reported here) label people. And they do (therapists, that is). At least, that's been my experience. In real life, people don't do that. They say hey--you're crowding me, or pushing me away. Some therapists will treat normal behavior and dysfunction as pathology.

I guess I didn't see it as an attack on anyone here at all.

My T is also against labels. I guess I wasn't labeling myself, per se, just describing myself as being someone who gets overly attached easily.

(((Ruh roh))) Im catholic, my t is jewish - we argue over who feels more guilty

Ha ha... I'm catholic and my T is jewish also. LOL

I thought the joke was jews have guilt - catholics have shame. (and the first one I see is jewish and I am recovering catholic. The second one is ex catholic too).

Yes, actually I should "label" myself as the same...lol

"I'm sorry you feel that way" I think, means- "Not *my* fault"....

I would want her to define exactly what does she think "this" is.

So your T must know you "find boundaries hurtful and filled with rejection." All the more her fault for stomping all over them.
Plus, you are not at fault for having feelings. Feelings are neither right or wrong.

{{Many safe hugs}}

Thank you Precaryous... you helped me feel better. I need to learn that my feelings aren't wrong. I've spent my life thinking the are....bad habit to break! I hate to lose her over this...I wish she could just see it my way. If she would have just talked to me when she decided to redefine boundaries this all could have been avoided. Because of the way she handled it, I'm just paranoid for boundaries to change now...because I know she may not tell me.

I agree too, that "I'm sorry you feel that way" feels like "it's not my fault that you feel that way, but I'll say sorry for your feelings anyway".

Too funny. It is the other way around with me and my t lol


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I used to go to t near the detroit meetup - i think theres a lot of renegade ex-nuns there!

Wait are you in Michigan? ? Me too!

No way! I thought you were in san francisco. ?? You better come to our meetup!!

Me too

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Hankster I sent you a pm

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Hm, I'm technically Catholic (baptized, but never went through First Communion or anything) and my marriage counselor is Jewish...

Meet up????

Bay, look at the top of this page, under 20th anniversary forum. There's a link to RSVP to a meetup, and get a free t-shirt

Yeah. I forgot about t-shirt. Probably too late

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Doc john said he ordered extras per site.

I think it's awfully generous that they are willing to send out shirts to those of us who can't make it to one. I'm very appreciative!

Errmmmm am I the only one who isn't really sure I want to walk around with a psych central t-shirt on? ?

I thought about getting one and wearing it to a team meeting at work. Maybe not a good idea, but it made me smile for a minute.

Oh no way I would walk around in it lol I would maybe wear at home. I didn't order it anyways

No walking around in it lol or to work on casual Friday. I just see kids asking questions about it

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