[Jordy]

I haven't been to group in a little over a year now, even though T has offered me to go in for a couple refresher sessions. I didn't really need it, and I couldn't go anyway because of my work schedule.

But last Monday I had a bit of a crisis where around midnight I sent T an email about how bad I was feeling. I also mentioned a few issues I had never told her about.
On Wednesday she texted me saying I did well using that skill and suggested a couple more I could use. Then on Friday she tried calling me and I missed the call, texted me to try and convince me to leave work early today to go to group. I really feel pressured into going, but I'm not sure I want to. I don't know anyone in this group, so I won't share much.
Also I would have to tell my employers the truth, and they would know I'm having some difficulties... As a reminder I work for 3 children Pdocs, one of them being T's husband. I hate mixing my personal life with work and this time I would have to...

I just don't know what to do...

[winter4me]

You need to leave early for "an appointment" or for "personal reasons", you don't need to explain. Do go. It may help, it may not, but you can't know if you don't go, and your T is taking the time to give you support and asking you to do this thing for yourself. You don't have to "share" much, you don't have to have any expectations. Just go even though it is hard to do. (you are spending a lot of energy talking yourself out of it)....anyway, that is my advice---advice from someone who knows it is usually better if you DO even if you have all kinds of "reasons" not to

[Jordy]

I asked her husband, he's ok with it... Guess I have to go now....

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[JJORANGE]

Originally Posted by Jordy

I asked her husband, he's ok with it... Guess I have to go now....

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Why did you feel you had to ask him? This is your business and no one else's. Just because he's your T's husband doesnt mean he should be the one to decide. If you don't want to go no one can make you. But it could be helpful

[NowhereUSA]

If you think it would be beneficial, go. The thing I like about DBT group myself is that I don't have to be super open. I can just observe and engage in a minor way. I did it originally six years ago and then last year I did a refresher course which helped.

[Jordy]

Originally Posted by JJORANGE

Why did you feel you had to ask him? This is your business and no one else's. Just because he's your T's husband doesnt mean he should be the one to decide. If you don't want to go no one can make you. But it could be helpful

As he's my boss I had to ask him if I could leave early. He agreed before I even told why I to leave. What I meant was that my only valid reason to not go was if I couldn't leave work.

Group was ok, but I think T wants me to attend regularly... I guess we'll discuss it on Friday.

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