[Soccer mom]

I am getting ready to go through the referral process and am trying to hang onto hope that I can have a great experience with a new T. Is it possible to have a great connection with another T? Perhaps this is a dumb question but I just need a little hope right now.

I have never felt someone being able to see into my soul the way it feels when my T. looks at me. I'm afraid I'll miss that the most.

[Sawyerr]

I don't think I can say anything helpful because I really don't know. In my experiences having great connection or any connection at all with people is rare. But I really wish you find a therapist who you'll connect with. I hope he or she will be able to give you what you need.

[Leah123]

I've seen five therapists in my life, ranging for periods from a couple months to two and a half years. One of those experiences ended badly. Two were mediocre.

But I had very healing, fully-seen, wonderful experiences with two of them, so for me, definitely, I was able to reconnect with a new therapist when I needed it and I think it's absolutely possible.

[rainbow8]

I've also had 5 Ts and I connected with each of them. Not in exactly the same way, but in a good enough way. When I decided to see my current T, I didn't think I would connect so deeply but I did. I love her, but I know I could connect to someone else too. I have seen the hospice social worker about 5 times, and I really like her. I feel connected though we don't really "do" therapy. I think developing a close connection to one T helps us to be able to develop other connected relationships more easily. I think you'll be fine.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I've had 9 Ts. T3 and T5 I had a very good connection with. I saw T5 for 4 years. Ex-T I had a very good connection with too. New T, we're still working on it. There's got to be a little there because I haven't left yet, nor has she.

So it is definitely possible to have a good connection to a new T.

[atisketatasket]

I've got two. I would not call myself connected to either, but I recognize their good qualities, how they might be helpful, and I can tolerate them. If I were someone else I could easily be connected to both at once. So I can't imagine that you couldn't connect to subsequent therapists.

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[AllHeart]

My belief is that one can have a great connection with an infinite number of T's -- or any human being. There simply is no limit to the amount of meaningful connections we can experience with others. Good luck with the future new T!

[Soccer mom]

Maybe I don't want to connect as much as I did with this one. Perhaps most of the "connection" was the transference and it won't be "normal" to feel such strong feelings. It would be nice to feel a normal/healthy connection with someone so this might be a good thing. If I decide to stay in therapy.....

I cancelled my session Monday saying I've had a lot of realizations, am ok, want more time to process and have realized things that are going right in my life that I didn't see before.

[PinkFlamingo99]

I went into therapy this time terrified of it and not planning on trusting or liking the therapist. However, we connected really really quickly and I felt safe with her right away. It's way less painful than my last experience was and I feel safer.

I have had three long-term therapists that I connected well with and experienced very effective therapy.

[Polibeth]

I had a good connection with a previous T who was a male. When I moved out of state I was referred to current T who is a female. I didn't think I'd like a female T but the connection has worked out very well. It is possible to have more than one connection.

[LonesomeTonight]

I've had, maybe 7 different T's over the years. There was one in the past that I connected to fairly well, but nothing overly intense. I feel very connected (especially lately) to my T now, and extremely connected to my marriage counselor--they're very different in their personalities and therapy styles (come to think of it, the other T that I had a fairly good connection to was different from either of them).

I figure if I can have a fairly strong connection to several T's that are quite different from each other, then yes, it's definitely possible to have a connection to another T. (Or maybe there's just something in the air in the practice I go to!) It will be different, but could be just as strong, or maybe stronger. Maybe you'll find someone you can work with and not have all the transference stuff, so you'll be able to make more progress. Or just someone with a different approach who could help you see things in a different way.