Did you want a male or female T specifically?

Female. 100%. My pdoc is great but I am sooo uncomfortable with him.

I don't hire any male professionals except plumbers and tuck pointers - and that is mostly because I don't know of any companies run by women around here.

I am female and prefer male Ts. My PDoc is male and I find him super easy to talk to, non judgmental, not bossy and gentle. most of my male Ts have been the same. I have a great relationship with my mom and have close female friends and mentors, and yet I haven't encountered female Ts I connected with.

Really interesting that maternal transference is an issue for many.
I wanted a female T, partly because of stuff I wanted to talk about, and partly because of how I relate to men, and the games I get into. Though I play plenty of games with my female T

I wanted a woman. There are unique issues women experience that men will be very unlikely to understand. I also prefer the company of women in general, older women in particular.

There are things I need to work on in therapy which I couldn't possibly discuss with a woman, so it's a good thing I have a male T. I've had two female Ts, and while I don't think there is any inherent difference between male and female therapists, my own hangups mean that having a female T is mostly a waste of my time and hers. (I didn't realise that it was even possible to discuss certain subjects until I was in therapy with my current T.)

i've had 3 female Ts and 3 or 4 male Ts. i have never really gotten along with female Ts. i hate women acting motherly to me. i was sexually abused by my previous male T. i got admitted to a residential treatment center and was assigned a female T of course. i did not mesh with her and we never really got anywhere. she went on vacation and the clinical director saw me for a session while she was gone. i told him more than i had ever told the female T in that one session. he seemed really genuine and i felt like i could just talk to him. so i asked to switch to him. he was very hesitant at first given what happened with my former male T. and i dont blame him. eventually he decided to work with me and we have been working together for almost 5 years. we have both left the treatment center... he resigned and opened a practice and kept me as a client. i stayed 3 or 4 more months in the center then discharged and now we meet in his private practice. i have found the relationship with this T to be very healing for me. although it was pretty turbulent for the first few years , things have stabilized and i am doing better than ever in my life.

It's interesting to me how many women with mom issues don't want to see a female therapist because of it. I have really deep issues related to things my mother did to me, but I guess I've always banked on the fact (hope) that there's not likely to be two of her in the world; at least, not two that I would run into in a lifetime, one of them being a therapist. I don't like gushy female therapists (haven't really seen any to know if they are abundant), but I absolutely don't want a male therapist (had one that was good, but we just didn't connect).

female but so far all my female Ts developed feelings for me so next time I'll try male.

(had one male T when I was younger but I didn't trust him at ALL... in retrospect he wasn't so bad from what I saw but I was involuntarily in therapy. I wish I had opened up to him but oh well, daddy issues)

I didn't care--I've had both genders and have had positive experiences with both. That said, I really like my therapist now, who is a male. I think he is direct and compassionate.

i usually lean towards female ts because they seem safer... until i realize that i have more issues with women than men.

i am much more likely to develop codependent relationships with women and it brings up all sorts of mother stuff...

but then certain traumas are hard to talk about with men...

looking back, male ts were far less destructive (strangely, for someone in the sex trade).

but then the only way i manipulated men was through sex... and as long as the t had any sense of ethics, that wasnt an option.

i manipulated women through all sorts of other methods involving mothering and saving and trauma and... ugh!

statistically speaking I don't do well with male Ts. So I stick with chicks now.

As a female who has only been able to really connect and trust one male. A female is the only way I could go. It has taken me a few years to really trust my T. I can't imagine what it world be like to have to work through all the mistrust with a man before any other work can be done

Yes, I wanted a therapist the same gender as me (female). But I ended up with a male therapist because he was better prepared, and I'm glad I made this choice!

I won't work with a female therapist. I don't trust women.

when i had female Ts the first few sessions were usually ok but at some point either they'd bump up a personal value of mine that wasn't compatible with their treatment approach or they would inadvertantly disclose a personal belief that I found problematic. neither of which led to productive or healing discussions. in two different cases when I brought up a concern I had the Ts were defensive, hostile and condescending.

in contrast, currently I'm dealing with a pretty big rupture in therapy. I am very angry, hurt and barely engaging with my therapist. he's been patient, nurturing and open to hearing all my feelings. he's stayed engaged even though I haven't. I feel so much better about my male Ts than any of the female ones I've seen. like even though I feel like I hate my current T I know our work together is productive and it's better than the pleasant or neutral experiences I've had with female Ts.

It didn't matter to me, but when searching for a T (online), I seemed to be drawn to female Ts. It's probably not a coincidence, but I have no idea what it means...

A lot of my issues involve body image/eating. I feel like it would be hard to talk to a man about this. Then again, my current one is beautiful and only a little older than me so I find that hard too.

Samethings I had happen. And with current male therapist, samething.

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Samething, as in same thing you mentioned about your current one. It's a good thing for most of the time.

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Female - I find it easier to talk openly with a woman. No idea why.

I'm female and I specifically wanted a male t because I was hurt by a female therapist in the past but after getting hurt again by a male therapist I went back to seeing a female and I have a great relationship with her now

I wanted female. Always had females. Nearly fled when I got a guy. But I've given him a chance. 2.5 years now. Telling him stuff I've never told anyone.

I'm a guy and I would prefer a male therapist because I have a harder time opening up to women since most of the women in my life including my own mother have been abusive.

With that being said, I think that an older woman who has experience being a mother could be the most helpful to me in the long term. I would simply prefer male therapists in the short term to lead me up to that point.

I wanted a woman.