Did you want a male or female T specifically?

Women are always my first choice. I do have a male pdoc and only considered him initially because there were no females avaialable. He is the second male pdoc I've seen and is wonderful. The other male pdoc I saw I wasn't crazy about at the time but in retrospect he was excellent as well. Both men are very safe, even my current who I have transference with - I trust him wholeheartedly, so I'm glad I was able to find a male that I could develop trust with and open up. I have a fear of men thats irrational but nevertheless there. So it's been good to force myself to trust that all men don't judge or are only after one thing. He is the most helpful pdoc I've ever seen have so im glad for that. Still, I can't open up to him as freely as I can to a female about everything, so for therapy I still much prefer females. I wouldn't outright refuse a male as I would have in my 20s though, so that's progress.

For other doctors, it's still only female. I saw my last male PCP when I was 5 and would go without if I couldn't get a woman. Same with a gyno or ob gyn. I just don't feel right about male gyno's. When I was pregnant with my first child I changed medical practices because my PCP wouldn't refer me outside her network so I could find a female, as she didn't have an available female Ob gyn in her practice. She was shocked at how much trouble Id go through to avoid a male and I was appalled they didn't t have more females on staff since clearly they were the preferred choice (they were all booked).

In my experience more engaged and productive, less guarded initially. Which feels easier to me anyway. Ive always related to females (in any context) more easily. I'm told it's because I'm sensitive for a male but who knows... I have some family dynamics / history that looks like it left me with this tendency but it could be a number of things.

Lol not a large % that i know of... it comes up occasionally but they're never really "in love with me" just some fantasy/who they think I am of course...Have been told I'm seen as some sensitive and understanding guy that would be a perfect husband or whatever...Little do they know I can be very indignant, impatient, immature, selfish and can really stink up a bathroom.

Yeah, but all feelings of being "in love" are based on a fantasy version of someone, and needs being met... I'm sure they are "really in love" with you. Trust me it's the same feeling in and out of therapy, lol! There is something sexy about the situation itself though I admit. Something about the balance of masculinity and sensitive emotive-ness for lack of better term... Outside of a therapist role I'm not sure I would experience a compassionate emotionally responsive male.

Clearly being kind and empathetic is the easiest way to seduce a woman. I wonder if it's something you could miss? Just out of total curiosity. I always felt like my attraction to my therapist was glaringly obvious, but every now and then he says something that makes me wonder if he really hasn't picked up on it.

I think anyone could stink up a bathroom.

I only see females also. Too many issues with men. Sometimes I think maybe I should see a male T to help me learn to trust and to learn more about the opposite sex.

Good point about fantasy. The balance of masculinity and sensitivity makes sense and it's been brought up before (by clients and also by my wife as part of the attraction in our relationship). And yes I'd imagine so...I like to think I can pick up on such things but I'm sure there are times.

I've seen a male therapist as a part of working to understand why I "connect more easily" with females. It was quite helpful for me.