[littleowl2006]

Hello guys,
I am new here and have a problem that I feel I cannot discuss with the people around me.
I am in group therapy and a couple of weeks ago I was feeling really stessed, sad, anxious and panicky about several things so that I began spiraling down to a point where I could no longer explain this but needed help. In group therapy I said something like "I feel so bad, it feels like I don't deserve to live", and my therapist simply said "Maybe". During the session I felt as if he wasn't listening to me at all, but instead I felt stigmatised and put down to a cliché by everything that he said and the way he did. I felt desperate and disappointed and don't know if that is normal or how I should cope with this situation. The group is on a summer pause till the end of the month and I would like to know I somebody can give me some advice here.
All the best!

[unaluna]

Sounds like youre angry but afraid of being angry.

[Fuzzybear]

hmmm... I don't understand that T's response . I can understand you feeling angry and disappointed

[Cecilia12]

Does he respond the same way to everyone else?

[Leah123]

I would share what you wrote with him to see how his perception of the conversation matches up with yours. Since the group is on break and this is troubling you (understandably) would you be able to email him?

[Rive.]

I have to say I don't understand your therapist's reply of "maybe"... maybe what?? He's lost me here. Could you also elaborate what he said and did that was cliché?

At any rate, is there any way you could contact him to let him know how you feel: i.e. that you need help and didn't feel he heard that plea nor offered any concrete way to help etc.

[littleowl2006]

Hey guys,
thank you so much for your responses!
I tried to talk to him on the phone afterwards, but somehow I couldn't get through to him.
The reasons that I was anxious for in the forst place had to do with a complicated situation with my boyfriend, my troubles finding a job an generally being stressed, but the therapist didn't ask why I was feeling so lost. He simply said something that I understood as cliché: "As long as your father has power over you, you will never feel comfortable in any relationship with a man". Which could be true, but I felt that it had nothing to do with my situation in the present. To the others I feel that he is kind of different, more understanding and I sense that he maybe feels offended my me because I got sexually abused by a male cousin when I was a kid and once expressed that in certain situations I was afraid of men. - It feels good to write this down. I would like to talk to him, but I am afraid to do so in front of the group and I am afraid to confront him and that what I am afraid of is true and that he truly resents me.
Thanks everybody

[littleowl2006]

So I took your advice, Leah123, and emailed him. I hope the situation clears up. Thank you so much for all your questions and comments, that helped a lot!