[Sawyerr]

Do you cry when you are in therapy session? Do you do it in front of other people too, or only when you're alone?

I cry very rarely, and when I do is when I am alone and 100% sure no one is there too see and acknowledge it. I've never cried in sessions but lately when I am with my therapist, I get teary eyes. Sometimes I don't even notice it until she asks if I am sad. It's like I physically cry before I do emotionally (I don't know if this makes sense). By cry I mean, I have tears in my eyes. When she notices that, I start to feel the sadness. Does or did anyone experience anything like that? How do I let myself cry and keep the feelings while doing it?

Thank you.

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[musinglizzy]

I very rarely cry, and for a long time could not cry in front of my T. But since those floodgates opened, I cry nearly every session. I hate it.

[Sawyerr]

Originally Posted by musinglizzy

I very rarely cry, and for a long time could not cry in front of my T. But since those floodgates opened, I cry nearly every session. I hate it.

Do you maybe know what helped you to "start" crying in front of T? Was it when you trusted her enough?

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[stopdog]

I very rarely cry and absolutely never around a therapist.

[divine1966]

I cry. A lot. In front of people or alone. I cry at each graduation ceremony and o saw so many over the years, never get used to. I cry in sessions too . Last two sessions we were even laughing about t having to open new box of tissue for me. It doesn't bother me.

I actually cried in a first session last summer . I was very distraught. I just ended a relationship of nearly 9 years and was consumed with guilt because my ex was so devastated, he was so stressed with me moving out that heended up in a hospital with heart attack and then needed heart surgery, we weren't together anymore but he had no one but me as his kids were not in town so I sat with him in a hospital the entire time. He is an alcoholic and I was scared he was going to die.

When I got to my first session I couldn't even talk non stop crying over the whole thing. I was hysterical.

So a year later my t got used to me crying



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[Cinnamon_Stick]

I have come close to tears in one session but stopped myself. I don't like crying in-front of anyone. I cry alone a lot.

[junkDNA]

i have cried in front of my T.. like full on sobbing sometimes. it doesn't happen as much as it did before. crying in front of ppl is hard for me. i don't really cry in front of other people... i cried at my grandmas funeral which was a big deal for me

[velcro003]

I don't cry very much, only when deeply depressed or when completely stressed to the max. The only people to really see me cry is my vetenarian's office when I was worried about why my cat was sick, and my boss, when i was super depressed and almost got fired. No T has seen me cry, and I can't really imagine it ever happening.

[musinglizzy]

Originally Posted by Sawyerr

Do you maybe know what helped you to "start" crying in front of T? Was it when you trusted her enough?

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The tears were always RIGHT THERE, but I never let them fall. I would sit there and shake. Visibly shake, fighting them. After time, after I did feel some trust with my T, it was her words, the subject she brought up, that I just couldn't hold them back anymore. She was very nurturing and loving, which made me cry more. Now, it seems like I at least have a few tears with every session. Yes, I think time and trust is what did it for me. Now I cry because I just feel hopeless. She has learned which buttons to push too.

The first time I REALLY cried, I asked her if she could come sit next to me. She did, and let me cry on her shoulder. That helped me feel safe, and not so ashamed.

[Bipolarchic14]

Up until three months ago I could say was is rare for me to cry. I have even had times where I felt like crying and tears would not come! Now I am waterworks in my group therapy and my one on one! It's so embarrassing.

[atisketatasket]

I rarely cry, and definitely not usually in front of other people. Embarrassingly, I got weepy, twice in one session, with No. 2 this week. It was the subject she had introduced, but the weepiness was completely unexpected - since I'm fine on that subject with No. 1.

[bounceback]

Took many years to cry in therapy. I have been in therapy for 25 years on and off. It took me a lot of time to trust therapists. With my last therapist I was able to start getting to the core of issues and was able to start feeling. With my current therapist I cry when I need to. I remember the sessions where I always felt like I was crying though. It took me even longer to cry in group therapy. I had learned to turn off my feelings and to cry alone. I had to unlearn that and learn to trust.

[Sarah1985]

I get teary eyed almost at every session. I have cried a lot. But have only sobbed heavily, twice.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I'm a cryer, but I hate crying. It's always a precursor to a breakdown, so I try to fight it as much as possible. I also hate crying in front of people. I'm an ugly cryer: face swollen and red. I don't usually get snotty, thankfully.

I've been with new T for 4 months. I have at least shed tears in almost every session. I'm kinda at a disadvantage though because my ex-T's abandonment has really traumatized me. So anytime we talk about ex-T the tears come. Two weeks ago was a horrible session for me and it had nothing to do with ex-T. I balled my eyes out. T didn't even offer the kleenex which is on her side of the room! But last session I didn't cry, so that was good. Next session however, we will be talking about ex-T... More crying is in the forecast

Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

I'm a cryer, but I hate crying. It's always a precursor to a breakdown, so I try to fight it as much as possible. I also hate crying in front of people. I'm an ugly cryer: face swollen and red. I don't usually get snotty, thankfully.

I've been with new T for 4 months. I have at least shed tears in almost every session. I'm kinda at a disadvantage though because my ex-T's abandonment has really traumatized me. So anytime we talk about ex-T the tears come. Two weeks ago was a horrible session for me and it had nothing to do with ex-T. I balled my eyes out. T didn't even offer the kleenex which is on her side of the room! But last session I didn't cry, so that was good. Next session however, we will be talking about ex-T... More crying is in the forecast

Hugs to you SP. My therapist makes a big deal out of the fact that I refuse tissues when she offers them. I'm honestly not sure why I do that. I think she thinks I'm being too proud and not wanting to take anything from her.

I don't cry more than maybe a tear or two - never any sobbing or sensation of released feelings. I have had tears in my eyes in therapy but not cried as such. I don't know how I would go about crying if I wanted to. My T doesn't seem to think it is strange or problematic.

[divine1966]

I am just in general very emotional. I cry when things are good not just bad. Usually crying is the reaction to strong emotion for me. I feel no shame.

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[LonesomeTonight]

I cry quite frequently in front of my T--to the point of really sobbing a few times--and in front of my marriage counselor (so my H sees that too). I even cried for the first time recently in front of my p-doc. I think I first cried in front of each of them when I really started to trust them and felt like it was a safe space to cry and show my emotions. Otherwise, except for crying sometimes in front of my H, like if we have a fight, I tend to cry in private, especially if I'm alone in my car or in the living room by myself after H and daughter have gone to bed. And in the shower, too.

My mom was very much about hiding emotions away, to the point that I'd be like, "Oh, no," the first time I'd cry in front of someone I was dating, thinking that then they were going to end things with me. And once I cry in front of someone once, it's easier to do it again... And the time I cried when my former boss gave me an awful review--I was convinced I'd be fired on the spot for being so weak as to cry. I still worry about it--I mean, I've actually apologized to both T and MC for crying before (like if I was sobbing and couldn't get the words out). I mean, there's a reason they have the tissues sitting there...

[Chummy]

I've cried in front of my T. Quite a few times this year. A few times I was really sobbing. Snotty crying, not able to talk. Then there were some more times that I had tears coming down. And sometimes just teary eyed. A few sessions in a row I cried heavily. I didn't like that I cried so much and I really wanted a session in which I didn't cry.

I don't like crying on front of others. I haven't cried in front of previous T's or in group therapy. I'm usually cry when I'm alone. My parents have seen me cry a few times, but now I try not to do it when I'm with them. Usually the tears come at night when it's time for bed. One time I almost had to cry in front of pdoc, but I didn't want him to see me cry so I walked away. That wasn't the only reason why I walked away, but one of them.

I used to not be a crier, but that changed particularly in the last 10 years while working with my current therapist. I cry pretty freely in therapy. In fact, I've become one of those people who cries at movies, at just about anything that moves me in some way. It's a bit silly really, but I've written it off mostly to changing hormones as I get older. I've become rather sappy in my old age. I just own it and accept the newer, wetter me.

[magicalprince]

I have gotten teary and always shook myself out of it. when I really cry, it's baaaad... I'm a black and white cryer...

[atisketatasket]

Originally Posted by lolagrace

I used to not be a crier, but that changed particularly in the last 10 years while working with my current therapist. I cry pretty freely in therapy. In fact, I've become one of those people who cries at movies, at just about anything that moves me in some way. It's a bit silly really, but I've written it off mostly to changing hormones as I get older. I've become rather sappy in my old age. I just own it and accept the newer, wetter me.

I dunno about hormones - mine are screwed up big-time - but I've had the same experience as I get older. I attribute it to growing wisdom or empathy or something like that.

[nottrustin]

I rarely cry. The only people who see me cry are hubby and kiss. I occasionally get tasty eyed in front of t. One I actually felt myself starting to cry I was trying to go with it but couldn't.

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I dunno about hormones - mine are screwed up big-time - but I've had the same experience as I get older. I attribute it to growing wisdom or empathy or something like that.

I'll go with that! LOL!!

[AnxiousGirl]

Originally Posted by Sawyerr

Do you cry when you are in therapy session? Do you do it in front of other people too, or only when you're alone?

I cry very rarely, and when I do is when I am alone and 100% sure no one is there too see and acknowledge it. I've never cried in sessions but lately when I am with my therapist, I get teary eyes. Sometimes I don't even notice it until she asks if I am sad. It's like I physically cry before I do emotionally (I don't know if this makes sense). By cry I mean, I have tears in my eyes. When she notices that, I start to feel the sadness. Does or did anyone experience anything like that? How do I let myself cry and keep the feelings while doing it?

Thank you.

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I never cry whenever I'm infront of anyone. Usually I cry when I'm completely alone and extremely overwhelmed. Sometimes in therapy sessions I get to the verge of crying ( my therapist actually wants me to ) but I hold it together and look away and just cry when I leave her office. She was really shocked at how well I hold myself together because I lost a family member a day before a session and didn't even shed a tear infront of her.