[qwertykeyboard]

I feel like a failure. I feel like i failed T by not getting better or using her DBT skills. I just have so much trouble using them and its so hard to explain why. I dont have belief in any of this. I just want to be better. But I feel like I failed and that I shouldnt go back.

[stopdog]

I don't think a client can fail a therapist.
Perhaps therapy is not for you at this time or perhaps a different sort might be useful

[JaneTennison1]

I agree with SD. I don't think you can fail the T but the skills may not be useful. Do you find therapy helpful in other ways? Can you work on the feeling of failure in T? If not or if this T is not helping then good luck doing what is best for you.

[Favorite Jeans]

Maybe it's just not the right time, modality or therapist? Or maybe you need more time or you need to break down your objectives into smaller parts.

You haven't failed. You're just not where you want to be yet. Sometimes learning "skills" like DBT or whatever has to take a backseat because you need something else more right now. Or maybe DBT isn't for you.

That doesn't mean you should not quit. I don't know the answer to that. Before quitting it might be a good idea to talk to your T about how you're feeling. It might be a worthwhile conversation. I hope things start to feel better soon.

[AllHeart]

Originally Posted by qwertykeyboard

I just want to be better.

As others have said, you haven't failed your T even though it may feel like it.
The most important thing here is that you don't fail your Self by giving up. Most of us have lived long years in the state of unwell being we are in now. It's gonna take a lot of us a long time to work our way out of it. That means it could take years of therapy, trying different therapeutic methods, different therapists and even different medications. Taking temporary breaks from therapy can also be helpful in gaining a better perspective on things, for some.

Just don't give up on you. It's a damn hard fight sometimes, but, you can emerge a healthier, stronger person.

[Parva]

Originally Posted by qwertykeyboard

I feel like a failure. I feel like i failed T by not getting better or using her DBT skills. I just have so much trouble using them and its so hard to explain why. I dont have belief in any of this. I just want to be better. But I feel like I failed and that I shouldnt go back.

I feel for you...I know EXACTLY what you mean. I feel like I get in my own way, meaning that something inside me doesn't want to make improvement. Maybe it's fear that then T won't pay attention to my pain? Not sure. Makes me want to run away daily.

If you keep working at this, I will, too.
-P