Afraid of crying in front of T

I have a new therapist and I'm not even sure if she can help me and I don't have an emotionally connection with her. Nevertheless, I have the urge to cry in session. Thankfully last time I left then started crying.

I would feel better about crying if I knew 1) I could trust her and 2) we had a better relationship.

I know how you feel. I always get the urge to cry in my sessions and I have to work hard not to. I am afraid of crying in-front of anyone but especially my T.

I also hate crying in front of people. I try my hardest to hold back my tears. But often times I can't control it and cry anyways.

As far as trusting your T, that takes time. I've been seeing my current T for 6 months, and I guess I'm finally starting to trust her. I didn't have a real connection with her at the start. Now I have a little bit of one.

I always feel it is T's job to win your trust.

I'm in the same situation, so I know how tough this issue is. I don't know how many sessions you've had, but I thought maybe if I waited to see if I could develop more trust over time, I wouldn't freak every time I teared up. Though I still haven't cried in session with my T, I'm more comfortable with the idea that if I do, the world won't end and I won't look like a fool. Maybe telling your T that you're not sure yet whether or not you can trust her would help. I told my T that I didn't trust him (in my first session) and he's been, I think, trying to build trust from his side.

{{{Hugs}}}

I'm afraid of crying in front of anyone, including my T. Actually, crying in session is worse to me than crying in front of someone else. I trust my T. I was just told my whole life that crying is stupid or its for babies my whole life. I hear that voice in my head every time I cry and that makes it worse, so I just don't cry.

I wish I could cry in T - just to please him- I think he's frustrated I really don't get that emotional in sessions. I don't try not to cry - the tears just won't come. Until three seconds after I walk out a session, and then the water works start in earnest!

Sometimes I cry the entire time, while I talk. I've given up on eye makeup.