After Quitting Therapy...

Thank you for your post Crystal. You are right on in many ways. I am working on my goals and my self doubt. I must say that I never think of wishing I was doing something else rather than therapy but... sometimes it is not pleasant. I would also say that the person thinking elsewhere is either avoiding something that needs to be addressed or explored or yes... time to go. Thanks.

Thank you Perna. I see some parallels. I wish I had a hubby though. I would guess that although not a therapist, I am sure he has been helpful for you. I do have other support systems.

Much of what I have discussed here has brought a bit of anxiety and my perception of your prior post actually gave me a feeling of personal hopelessness but I suppose I need a reality check from time to time. I am not sure what is realistic for me...except I am getting older every day.

I did call my pdoc today and he is going to see me tomorrow. These are the things I need to talk of in upcoming sessions....

Refocus... and move on. Sure as hell wish my meds would appropriately kick in. That is much of the problem of helplessness, hopelessness lately...etc..

I will be back with you... I am sure... Thanks

(((Secret)))

I'm sorry you are having a tough time now. I have a hubby and sometimes wish I didn't? We always think the grass is greener eh?

I've been up and down all week myself. So, I understand the wanting your meds to kick in quick.

I'm wondering about the title of this thread. Do you see yourself quitting someday or terminating because you are ready to move on?

I suppose that I have come to a point in my therapy that I do not think I will be going on forever though I am actively working. I fear leaving my pdoc and also am afraid that what I have is all there is. This is distressing. But maybe things will get better as I move on. At this point...of anxiety... I am not seeing it but I am examining it. I wonder what I have been doing all of this time though I know I work hard in therapy. I feel all the sudden I have woken up... perhaps a new phase of therapy... but am at a loss for what most people have accomplished and I have not.

I suppose I idolize some of these things and nothing is ever perfect but for some silly reason I am finding myself taking an inventory of what I have missed and what I am too old for.

All of this info and thread is rather nebulous I realise. I have just been doing this for a long time.

well....all i can say is that i left therapy gradually. like if there was 1 meeting a weeks, the it was 1 in 2 weeks, 3 weeks, a moth etc.

but she became sort of a friend to our family. and i don`t know. damn, thought of calling her today. now this reminds me. hehe.

and if i need her i can call her/come to her. she is a very nice woman.
even after the REAL theraphy was over and i was fine, once in a few month of haugh a year i went to her..when i felt i was going through something and needed to talk about it.

i don`t think that after you end theraphy life becomes a paradize, but let`s say:
i think you should leave theraphy when you feel like.
and i suppose that this feeling comes by itself. that`s how it happened. i understand that there is fear, and that`s why enidng it gradually is a good idea.

andyou can always go back it you feel you need to.

Thank you Lady. I appreciate your thoughts. I think that is how it will be ....

How nice to have her as a family friend.

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I wonder what I have been doing all of this time though I know I work hard in therapy. I feel all the sudden I have woken up... perhaps a new phase of therapy... but am at a loss for what most people have accomplished and I have not.

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I think I understand this as it is happening to me this week. It isn't easy on me either. I do idealize my therapist, my husband. I'm always looking for the one person or thing to happen to me that will make me whole. I also wonder what should I be accomplishing? why is this taking me so long? etc. The answer is we accomplish what we can mentally handle at the moment.

I also ruminate constantly about past hurts, present hurts and even future worries. If I could just ruminate about happy times in my life. I feel stuck quite frequently. I'm really analyzing my therapeutic relationship and I see why there are boundaries now, I see why he's empathetic one session and tougher the next. I'm trying to remember that his only agenda is to help me. I know this deep down so I need to hold on to it.

I'm starting to believe him when he says that I am a good person and beautiful. I say starting to believe because until recently, I just thought he was telling me what I wanted to hear. I am starting to feel it.

This is coming to me with anxiety though still. In fact, I just cried alone in my car for a half hour about it then felt better.

Could some of this be starting to happen for you too?

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I suppose I idolize some of these things and nothing is ever perfect but for some silly reason I am finding myself taking an inventory of what I have missed and what I am too old for.

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I don't know what is on your list but giving yourself a set of rules to follow can also cause anxiety. Ask yourself where are these rules written? Who writes these rules anyway? Who are 'they' to tell any of us what we are too old for?

I think that we are now talking of potential and I know that this is basically up to me how I decide to progress. There are some habits I have had for many years that are dysfunctional and pretty engrained. Now I see these things better. If I eliminate these things which is what I am working on... it is anxiety producing.

Part of these anxieties I can trace back to my birth and they also scream of the core that he speaks of. I admit it. I seem to hold on to the past and though it is valid it is time for me to not be so ruled by it.

Oh... I am and he is working on new boundaries for this relationship. We are growing something right now.

I did go to an emergency session yesterday and made good use of it. However as I work to give up certain things and fill them with other things (like what???) that are healthy then I will progress. Need to get this taken care of before thinking of quitting but this is what I think of .... and it does have the potential of my blooming somewhat even at my age and it does make things closer to closure...though certainly not this year.

I bet you are a beauty almeda (I believe I saw your pic here somewhere with your son...and you are) and my doc has not told me that but he speaks of my intelligence and other things that do make me feel good.

Thanks