Does your T ever call you dear, honey, sweetheart, etc?

Agreed. I call her doctor...if she called me honey or something equally as condescending that would just be inappropriate.

My T of many many years said "Bye sweetie" very softly at our last lesson before I had to move across country for my job. It was a bittersweet session and coming from him it didn't feel inappropriate.

I would hate those terms from just about anyone else.

i think i would find it quite condescending if my T called me by any of these names . i dont know why . my friends call me by nick names .

No, he doesn't call me anything but my name. I wouldn't like it if he called me a pet name.

I wouldn't mind if I was in a similar relationship -- a therapist with whom there was no sexual tension, who had a mentor/parental relationship with me. My parents sometimes used terms of endearment, and I don't mind when others in a mentor/parental role use terms of endearment with me.

My T and I, though, don't have that kind of relationship, so "sweetie" would be awkward, weird, and possibly condescending coming from him. It also just doesn't suit his personality. But I have acquired nicknames over the years that are specific to my relationship with certain individuals (I worked closely with someone from Spain who used the Spanish diminutive form of my name, for instance), and I wouldn't mind if somehow one arose in therapy.

New t calls me honey, I don't mind and in fact I kind of like it because it is more familiar

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It is the familiarity I do not want those guys to assume they have with me.
Also I think it often is used as a way to disguise they can't remember names.

I never thought of it like that, perhaps it is an excuse!

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Nope.

I think if we had a larger age gap that might be okay but we're too close in age for this kind of thing.

No and I definitely wouldn't want him too. Weird. Icky. Inappropriate!!

Being from the south, I'm very accustomed to hearing terms of endearment. Coming from my family, a polite stranger, etc., it usually feels very sweet to me, and I actually really appreciate it. I also call my 11 year old niece and 13 year old nephew "baby" and I can see how to some that would be incredibly demeaning, but I've asked the kids if they are ok with me calling them that or if they wanted me to use their name (which I still do sometimes, too) and they both said they like it because they know I'm happy with them. I say all that because I've never really thought about a therapist saying it or not. My current therapist is a male - about 10 years older than me (mid 40's vs mid 30's). He has never ever called me anything but my name. And thinking about him actually calling me something else makes me cringe! I don't think I would like it one bit - i think it would negatively change the dynamic of our relationship. Funny how that works. Previous T was a female (about the same age difference), and over our 5 year relationship, I'm sure I can only count on one hand the number of times she called me something other than my name. I seem to remember a "sweetie" here and there, but it never felt weird or bad.

My private therapist has never called me anything other than my name.

My uni therapist calls me either "sweetheart" or "babe", often several times during a session. I can't remember which one came first, but there was definitely a part of me that was highly amused the first time I heard "babe". I actually like it now, though. It think it's sweet. I'm in my twenties and she's in her fifties, and I don't think it is condescending at all. It seems sort of natural, coming from her. She also tells me I'm precious. I'm trying to get used to hearing things like that, and by forcing myself to endure it I have come to appreciate it. It feels healthy to me.

uhhhmmm, no way no thanks. he has called me punk, kid, or this other nickname he has for me (janey) but never something like dear, sweetie, honey , etc. i wouldnt like that AT ALL

Really? I have lived in London for five and a half years, and have experienced the British to be very warm and outgoing in that sense. In Norway, where I'm from, we are much more reserved than the British! I hear "sweetheart", "love", "darling" or "dear" frequently. It was weird at first but now I find it charming.

Haha, what? Was this person from 1950s New York and did he shoot dice in an illegal game of craps?

Honestly, that is similar to hearing English "chavs" referring to women as "birds". It's just not cool. I once told a random guy in a pub to stop using that word, and felt like a real champion afterwards.

That is my experience of the English as well!

My ED nutritionist will sometimes call me hon-I notice it's when I'm particularly down or struggling. I think it's sweet.

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No she is very professional. It would feel awkward if she started doing that.

Sometimes, but vary rarely

My therapist has never called be any term of affection. She does often call me a warrior. The other day she called me a warrior princess. I think that's the closest she'll ever get to an affectionate nickname.

My therapist just calls me you

I remember twice she called me sweetie. Once I was in hysterics, and having a hard time breathing, because of the subject matter we were discussing; giving up the notion of my my mom accepting me, flaws and all. It was very calming and soothing, and I felt reassured that she would stick with me during this torturous journey, and she did stick it out till the end. When I remember the moments she said it I feel a warmth through my body, and have a smile on my face.