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#1
Dec 22, 2015, 07:03 AM
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I have given my t a Christmas/end if year gift. This is the 3rd year I have.
Have, or will, you give t a gift or card? If so what did/will you give your t? What has been your experience in doing this? |
 Bill3, Partless
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#2
Dec 22, 2015, 07:08 AM
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I was very ill in the run up to our final session before the break, I didn't realise that it would be, I thought she might work one or two days each week like she does over the other school holidays.
So I was gutted that I didn't manage to get her at least a card. I couldn't have sent one after our session as it wouldn't have made it on time. If I did mange it. I would have got her a book that we discussed in our first session that she said she hadn't read but sounds good. As she is always giving me books to read, I thought it would be amusing for me to give her one! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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#3
Dec 22, 2015, 08:29 AM
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No I haven't given her anything. She doesn't need or expect gifts - I did give her a gift for her birthday which she accepted gracefully but I know she would rather I said thank you than give her something. It's a very long term relationship and I feel more able to say how much I appreciate her, and know that she hears me than I did early on.
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#4
Dec 22, 2015, 08:36 AM
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No.
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#5
Dec 22, 2015, 08:39 AM
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She doesn't give me anything so why should I bother?
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#6
Dec 22, 2015, 08:41 AM
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Yes. It was more of a gift of appreciation vs a Christmas gift. She gave me a little gift as well.
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#7
Dec 22, 2015, 08:59 AM
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No. I pay her for sitting there.
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#8
Dec 22, 2015, 09:17 AM
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Not anything tangible. But last month I did sing something for her, a song that the lyrics spoke to where I was at in my head when I first came to see her 4 years ago, I told her me singing it now is a testament to how far I've come in therapy. She told me the following week that she considered it an incredible gift that I had done that. So I guess I kinda did.
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| AllHeart, Bill3, Inner_Firefly
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| AllHeart, Bill3, ShaggyChic_1201
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#9
Dec 22, 2015, 09:48 AM
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Nope. He's my T, not my friend.
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| Serzen
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#10
Dec 22, 2015, 10:05 AM
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No, but I haven't seen him in almost a year. I wasn't one to give him gifts. I did once when I was so moved, but it wasn't something I felt moved or obligated to do every year.
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#11
Dec 22, 2015, 11:24 AM
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No. That would feel awkward to me.
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#12
Dec 22, 2015, 11:32 AM
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Yes, she gave me a card, I gave her a small ornament. I don't often (ever?) properly say thank you, so it's good to get that opportunity.
I gave her a gift after my summer holidays too. I am well nice. |
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Dec 22, 2015, 12:19 PM
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For those who say no do you give and extra tip to the newspaper delivery person, mail carrier etc?? Just curious.
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#14
Dec 22, 2015, 12:20 PM
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And I wouldn't equate giving a gift to my therapist to a tip. Just seems really odd. If and when I give a gift to someone, it is because I feel a desire to show them my appreciation, etc., not because I am giving them an extra tip for a service. I am giving our neighbor a gift card in addition to what we pay him to take care of our lawn (that's his business). He charges us next to nothing really to take care of our yard and does many extras just out of the kindness of his heart (love our neighbor), so I included a gift card for him and his family to show that extra appreciation for his extra care to our family. |
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Dec 22, 2015, 12:21 PM
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I bought to a lovely card and having my son make her an apple pie. For my part I am buying the supplies and all. I have brought her homemade foods in the past and she has always loved it.....
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#16
Dec 22, 2015, 12:32 PM
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#17
Dec 22, 2015, 12:47 PM
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I would give her a card, but I'm not sure it's alllowed as per hospital rules. So I just told her verbally how much I appreciate her.
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#18
Dec 22, 2015, 12:49 PM
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No. I don't give other professionals in my life gifts either. (Or tips, except for wait staff.)
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Dec 22, 2015, 01:13 PM
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Never did but I want to, just once.
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#20
Dec 22, 2015, 02:24 PM
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I don't give gifts to T's or other professionals.
I would like to give my T a card. But I haven't done that the other times, so it feels weird to do that now. I wanted to give one, but I was to anxious for her reaction. I don't know if other clients give cards. I'm still a bit anxious to give a card. I haven't want to give previous T's a card. And she wouldn't give me one. I'm just one of many clients. I wish I was special, but I'm not. I wish she would give me a card, but she won't. |
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#21
Dec 22, 2015, 02:28 PM
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I think the newspaper delivery person and a T isn't the same. A delivery person makes much less money than a T. |
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#22
Dec 22, 2015, 05:31 PM
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I had given gifts to Ex-T on a couple of occasions. When I started seeing current T, I simply decided no gifting. I think it was partly due to the fact that I don't want to get attached to current T like I did with Ex-T.
The only thing I gave to current T was this summer when my black raspberries were going crazy and I was trying to get rid of them, so I gave a tub of them to T. Otherwise, no gifts. |
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#23
Dec 22, 2015, 05:31 PM
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Nope. No gift. I've never given her a gift and I don't think she'd accept it anyway but considering how mad at her I am, there's no way in hell I'd even send her a card (which I did last year). I even told her that I hoped her holidays would suck so on that front, there's not much hope ;-)
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| Bill3, Cinnamon_Stick, Inner_Firefly, nervous puppy
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#24
Dec 22, 2015, 05:32 PM
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#25
Dec 22, 2015, 06:57 PM
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This is the first year I gave my T a gift. I said it was for Christmas but it was really just a gift of appreciation. I bought my T a journal and inside it I listed all the ways that therapy has helped me and how she is a good therapist. At the end I wrote her a personal message. I wanted something that showed how thankful I am for everything she does and I wanted her to have something she could look at when she is having a bad day and know how good of a T she really is. She looked like she was going to cry while reading it and said it was very powerful and she loved it. I could tell she really genuinely loved it. Her expression after she read it was the best.
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| Inner_Firefly, nervous puppy, Serzen
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